So I just got the news that we're moving from 50/50 custody to about 30/70 custody. DH is a shift worker, and he'll work for 5 days and then be off for two. So that means in a two week period, BM will have SS9 for 10 days and we'll have him for 4 days. As I mentioned on a previous blog post, I stood my ground and made the change a few months back that SS9 could only be at our house when DH is also home. So that means that we won't have SS9 as much, and we'll have to pay child support to deadbeat BM who's on welfare, disability and food stamps.

But you know what? I'm thrilled!!! I've never been so happy at the prospect of paying child support. To me it's worth it for having the peace to raise BS15 and BD2 in a more stable and less chaotic environment. DH is mad that I won't support him in keeping 50/50 custody, which would mean me having to take care of SS9 on my own a lot more while DH is gone at work. That wouldn't be much to ask for a normal step-kid, *but* SS9 has absolutely no respect for me, and treats me like sh*t under his shoe.

It's been about 2 years now since they discovered a benign lesion in my brain that cannot be removed because of it's location. I told DH back then that I needed less stress in my life according to all of the doctors. That lasted for a bit, but things went back to there terrible normal ways once the shock wore off. So I will continue to stand firm that I am not a doormat, and that me, BS15 and BD2 *will* be treated well in our own house. DH and SS9 have chosen the predicament that they are now in, and even though DH doesn't want to accept it, it's his own doing for not parenting his kid and allowing him to treat others like crap.

Regardless, I've gotten my wish. God must be listening!