Disengaging sounds like the answer to my sanity. I have been reading everyone's advice here today (at work no less- who the hell cares?)and I'm really going to try it. Slowly, so no one suspects anything...
I'll start by smiling when I get home and nothing is done. Then, I'll make a nice Christmas Eve dinner and cuddle with my cats who do love and appreciate me. I'll put in a movie, have a glass of wine or two, go to bed, get up when SS starts stomping around at 6 a.m. (even tho he can't seem to get out of bed on time during school days or days we need to get to work!), open present, sing cumbaya and say Merry Christmas as my DH and SS head out the door to meet BM for the hand off.
If chores and homework aren't done- so what. SS can catch up (not!) at BM's next week.
I think I'll take some of my stashed money and hire a personal trainer for me to get in shape. Maybe start a new hobby now that i will have more free time...hmmmm this is not going to be easy- but Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to me!
I will let you all know how things go.8)8-)