I'm so glad I found this website. I have read so many stories about horrible stepchildren and it's nice to know I'm not alone! Even if no one ever reads this, I think it will be good for me just to get it out and post it...hopefully. I am hiding in the bedroom now to type this, it's the only thing that gets me through the day...staying away from them.

I'm actually not married. Have been engaged to stepkids' dad for 2 years but they consider me stepmom. Truthfully, they are the main reason I haven't taken the plunge. Me and fiance have our issues, but what we deal with would be completely manageable without his two stupid monsters. (ss9 and sd14) I also have bd11. My child acts normal, is smart, ambitious, not perfect of course, but just your normal child with some common sense. His kids however...no common sense or boundaries at all. SS9 acts 4 maybe 5 on a good day, takes medication, is obsessed with Thomas the train and just soooo annoying. I have finally gotten him to start wiping (took 2 years) he would leave poop all in his underwear, on the walls and would wipe poop all over pieces of regular paper (why?) and throw the poopy paper in his closet! He runs through the house like a crackhead and HAS to make noise, talk, sing all the time. My fiance says it's "normal." Like I've never been around kids and don't have my own. I wasn't allowed to act like that when I was younger and I had consequences, so did all my friends. It's not normal to act like a no brain spaz every second and get away with everything. Anything we tell him not to do he just keeps on doing it until he gets punished for it, then stops for a day or 2 and starts again. Sd14 has a tiny bit more sense than him, but not much, plus she has attitude constantly, yells all the time, pouts if she doesn't get her way and is generally annoying as hell also. They both have these big buck teeth because she is 14 and still sucks her thumb, and he is 9 and still sucks 2 fingers. They say they try but they just can't stop. And they lie about everything!! Neither one of them will look for anything, even if it's in front of their faces, they will yell, "Where is this, where is that?" Over and over until somebody gets it for them. And they are lazy!!! All they want to do is sit on the computer every single minute of the day. If you ask the girl to do anything at all, she will just sit there until you yell at her, then get attitude of course. They are overweight and all they want to do is eat. I have had to lock food in a cabinet because if I don't they will eat every bit of something at one time. The boy even started taking handfuls of sugar through the house dropping it everywhere. They sneak food like they are starving also. They had a run go on in the park across the street from us and the boy went over there and started eating donuts that were supposed to be for the runners. They want sugar every minute of the day. The girl took some donuts in her room one time and she ate 10 of them in about 5 minutes then said she couldn't help herself. I can't buy sweets, I can't even buy waffles because anything they have access to they will eat a ton of in 1 sitting unless you constantly supervise them. Then of course they will lie and say they didn't do it.

I understand a lot of it is the way they were raised, their mother shoplifted all the time, sold drugs and took pills and went to jail for 3 years. She was with my fiance for 15 years and since she got out of jail a year and a half ago, has decided that she's the perfect mother now. She is a disgusting cow to say the least. Luckily for her, (I say this sarcastically) not long after she got out of jail and was in a half way house, her best friend who lived in a different state, got into a car crash and died. Within the next week, she was on the phone and contacting her best friend's husband working him over and being his "rock" so that she could move in with him and have a place to go. They decided to get married so she could move there permanently and this all happened within a month or so of his wife and her "best friend's" death. And to win him over she talked all kinds of crap about her dead friend and told him that her friend had cheated on him and sucked d**ks...it was disgusting the lengths she went to. And she is 300 lbs or over and takes all these pictures of herself and brags about how beautiful she is (being overweight doesn't make you ugly, but she'd be ugly no matter what she weighed.) She acts like she's Miss America and that all men want her. Plus her kids look exactly like her (there is no evidence to me that my fiance even fathered them, they look only like her) so she tells them how beautiful and wonderful they are all the time. That's because she doesn't live with them! She lives out of state and has had them there twice. She didn't even take them this Xmas and has already told my fiance she can't take them full time. She doesn't want them! She knows they are assholes!! She took them last summer for 2 months and they each gained 14 pounds in 2 months!! When they were younger she would take bags of donuts, cookies and chocolate everywhere they went and just give it to them to get them to be quiet. Plus she always wants to "reminisce" with my fiance and talk about the good times and tell him how she can't talk to her current husband they way she used to talk to my fiance. She tries to be all cutesy and I even saw where she would facebook my fiance in the middle of the night and ask him to call her. He didn't thankfully, but he says he doesn't want to be mean to her because he wants to make sure she's doing ok for the kids' sake. Whatever. But I know where the no boundaries thing came from with the kids mostly. Her! I love my fiance also, but he just wants to pretend like everything is normal and wonderful so he doesn't have to deal with it. His own mother and sister told me that neither one of them, him or the mother should have been parents. I believe it.

Now here it is 2 days after Xmas and they are both just back to wanting the computer every second. I've gotten so I would prefer if the boy was on the computer because then he's quiet for 5 minutes. If they are not on the computer they want to watch the food network, talk about food or ask to eat food. If I try to be nice to either of them at all they get all overbearing and start thinking they should be with me every second, and I feel guilty, but they are just NOT likable enough to want to be around all the time. And they are so entitled!! They think they are supposed to not do anything but get what they want, everything they want all the time. The girl acts like she's a princess and he just acts like a 3 year old that asks for everything he sees. To some degree this is normal for kids, I understand, but they take it to a whole new level. It's ridiculous. Plus with the mother telling them how beautiful and wonderful they are every second they think there is nothing wrong with them. The girl is always saying how good she looks and how stylish she is. Umm yeah, being an overweight teen that likes to pull up her shirt so you can see the fat on her stomach, with buck teeth and a bad attitude makes you really cute. Don't they realize the only ones who ever say they are cute are their mom and dad?? They don't even have any friends! That's why they sit here all the time. The rest of my family and anybody I ever take them around think they are complete overbearing jerks. My family doesn't even want to get together for Xmas and have to have them over! So we didn't. I don't blame them one bit either. Just looking at them makes me mad, then when they open their mouths it gets worse when you hear how entitled they are but yet don't want to have to use their brains...ever. I feel bad that I don't naturally love them more, but they don't act grateful about anything or make you want to make things better for them, they just act like buttholes. I love my fiance and if we ever broke up I know I would always regret it in ways and always love him, but if anything in the world is going to break us up, it's going to be them. I don't know how much longer I can handle them without going crazy. I'm pissy and annoyed and even such a bitch it gets on my own nerves, but I don't know how to get over it being around them.