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Sending Skids over to a flu infected home

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Submitted by StrawberryPie on Wed, 02/12/2020 - 4:35pm

Been married to my DH for 3 years and have SD17 and SS14.  BM has been a big pain (long list that I won't get into) but also thinks she is Mother of the Year.  

She is the custodial parent and per the schedule the kids are supposed to be over tomorrow.  However, my DH informed BM I have the flu (despite getting a flu shot) and that may not be a good idea exposing the kids to it (neither got the flu shot).

And of course, she plans on sending the kids over.  Who does that?!  

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Submitted by ESMOD on Wed, 02/12/2020 - 4:48pm

Unless she would have reason to think that perhaps your husband was exagerating.. she is stupid.  My husband literally kept his kids out of school for a week when flu was rampant at their school.

The flu is deadly and to be honest.. I would not have told her this as if it were a question.

Your DH is just as complicit for allowing the kids to come to your  home.  

He should have TOLD her he was not taking this kids this weekend because he didn't want to risk them being exposed to the flu. period.

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Submitted by Winterglow on Wed, 02/12/2020 - 4:59pm

Your DuH is an idiot. As non-custodial parent he doesn't HAVE TO take his visitation. He should tell her that this weekend he's not taking them and that IS ALL. Good grief, what is he using for brains.

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 02/12/2020 - 5:03pm

where they are saying "stick to the CO no matter what" (like happens here, too). However, in matters of sickness/physical harm there is a gray area.

I agree if you have the all-out flu (not a cold), the kids are better off elsewhere since they have another house.
FWIW, I had to tell DH that if a skid showed up again at our house with a raging infection that I personally would be the one to drive that kid back to BMs, and he wouldn't be allowed in the house, either. And that he wouldn't like the things I said to him and to BM about it. (The incident that sent me over the edge was when BM sent one of them over with an open, pusulating skin infection and I overheard the skid say that his mom told him to let it air-out at our house. Hell no.)

Is she the kind that would still send them if they were sick or would they be poor babies who shouldn't travel so they'd stay at her house?

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Submitted by Disneyfan on Wed, 02/12/2020 - 5:18pm

Why didn't he just say he wasn't picking the kids up this weekend?  The way he worded it, BM could be accused of withholding the kids.

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Submitted by StrawberryPie on Wed, 02/12/2020 - 5:53pm

He did finally say the kids cannot come over while the flu is active here (yes the flu.  Tested positive).  And he has them just for the night not the this wkend.  She is still pushing back. It's all absurd to me.  Sometimes I feel like the only level headed adult is me.  But I'm not the parent.