Why am I throwing this party for the spawn?
Two days of errands.Today I will be cleaning the house all day and prepping & decorating. She comes across very ungreatful. She has huge entitlement issues. She keeps saying how she is the birthday girl and everything will be her way at her party. I hate when she acts like this. Im worried she will boss the little girls around. She has a history of being very bossy with her playmates. She is reminding me of a Bridezilla right now.
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Screw it, let your DH handle
Screw it, let your DH handle his spawn!
I have my own kids to worry about and plan bday party-i'm not planning anybody elses. HELL no. If she doesn't get a party, oh well....guys don't like planning that stuff and look at US to do it for them. HEY, in the case of my bios, fine, i can handle...the case of a STEPKID? NOPE...not I
Learn from this and never do it again. Last year SD was literally dumped on bf on her bday-BM got 'sick'....it was NOT a scheduled day, she already had this HUGE party planned that was coming up in a week or so her mom was throwing (which I attended but wont ever again)---so really you don't need two bday parties right? My kids never have TWO bday parties.
I didn't have my kids with me that wknd-we went to a sd sports game (i've stopped doing that also), and find out at the game that she has to go home with bf. That evening when my kids were returning I planned and made a nice dinner for us, and got cupcakes for her bday (at my house).
Ungrateful little wench, bitched about how her bday sucked, the worst day of her life, she hated the meal, and didn't want share any of the chocolate cupcakes-in fact I had to INSIST on it-and then she took the maining 4-5 home because she didn't want to share anymore. It was all about her, my day, my bday, i get to pick movie, tv, who eats what, on and on.
Her bday party the mom threw was ridiculous-tons of people at a indoor water pool place-she had TONS of gifts, cash, gift cards, all bm's family/friends from soccer...entirely over the top. It made me a little ill.
SO NO, I will not do SHIT for her-if her DAD wants to get a cake and cook something at HIS places or at his parents place, we will go THERE-I'm not HOSTING at MY HOUSE for a STEPKID-just to be told it sucks anyways.
This is the deal. The BM is a
This is the deal. The BM is a lazy whore. She does not throw her kid birthday parties. She does not even buy her a gift. She tells the child she is tight on money so she can not buy her anything. I was furious about this cause thats kinda cruel even for the evil spawn. If BM would of asked us to give her some money to be able to buy a birthday gift for the kid I would of had more respect for her. Anyhow...the BM's aunt threw a tiny little family party for the kid. It was all adults. Thats no fun for a 6 year old. SO I invited every little girl in her kinder class. We have 15 kids coming. I am doing this because I want to meet the other Mom's so I can then set up PlayDates for the spawn so she wont be up her Dad's ass so much. BM does not do this kind of stuff for her. I believe that it is one of the reasons spawn is so needy for Dad's attention. Is it nasty that there is an alterior motive to all this? If she dont start doing stuff like a normal kid does, I figure its gona get worse. Her father and I are very happy and love each other very much. When spawn is not here we enjoy each others company. As soon as she gets here I'm INSTANTLY PISSED. Sometimes for nothing. Im anticipating bedtime. Cause I know its gona be the same shit. That is normally my biggest gripe. The spawn has to be coddled like a helpless invalint. Please excuse my spelling by the way. Then my boyfriend falls asleep in there which really pisses me off. But she takes so long to fall asleep. Its like she purposely stays awake talking to him about nonsense because she knows Im in the living room waiting for him. He gets up very early in the morning so chances are if he laying down with her for 1-2 hours waiting for her to fall asleep, he then falls asleep. He does read her a story before they lay down. Its normally a half and hour story. So this circus goes on every night she is here. I say tell her a story or make her read with you. I made my son read every other page to me. In less than 10 min he was snoring. Its was so easy. I tucked him in,kissed his forehead,shut off the light and left the room for my alone time.I dont understan what is so freakin difficult. If she cant get to sleep on her own then how will she ever sooth herself or learn to have coping skills. I could go on and on about the shit this kid does.When BM has her she lets the kid just fall asleep on the couch at whatever time she wants. When I moved in with my BF I was SHOCKED to see that a 4 year old was going to bed after midnight.He would fall asleep but she was nowhere ready for bed. After alot of bitching and him seeing my 11 year old passed out and snoring by 9pm I think he got the point. Now he brings her in her room at 8:15 to 8:30 and the 2 hour bullshit begins.