The oldest skid is SS19.

Well mannered, polite etc. They were his only good qualities. I have to admit with SS19, I have played a big influence in his life by challenging his attitude and being really quite up front with him. Ill point out here that I have NEVER slated his BM or its family down.

SS19 has given me 18 months of hell. OH moved into MY house with ME and MY daughter 2 1/2 years ago. I was aware that the skids would be staying over once a week, and was fine with that (I had a three bed property), so SD slept in BD room and SS had the other room. SS19 started having problems at home, mostly caused by BM and its ilk. But SS19 did himself no favours. He finished school, didnt bother with college so dossed. BM was ok with this, but then she met a new man! SS19 started getting lippy and BM and NP (new partner) were not best pleased....Now BM doesnt provide for the kids, OH pays maintenance every week but expected both my and OH to buy clothes shoes etc ON TOP of that even though she got benefit money for the kids also. No when SS19 turned 16, BM kicked him out as the benefits stopped cos he didnt go to college. Then she had him back cos OH stoppped paying her as he wasnt living there. Then she kicked him out again....so OH stopped paying again. In all this he never came to ours, he stayed with BM's family. Then the worse happened, he came to us. I was ok with this, its OH son, and I knew he had kids and SS19 was a polite lad etc.......WRONG! He is a lob, a liar, lazy, immature to name a few. He decided he wanted a job, so through my brother and sister in law (they own their own company) he was given an apprentiship, SS19 was chuffed to bits! Good money, college training too, all paid for, job for life. He screwed it up. Left ours one night and didnt come back, he stayed with an aunt, decorated her house and ignored his job. Then he lost said job, so he moved in with his uncle. 3 months of no contact followed, then out of the blue he rings OH " Dad, can I come back", Now remember he has no job, no money, no benefits cos he cant be bothered. So back he comes and OH and ME re expected to pay for SS19....I was displeased, but said whilst we were at work, he could assist with jobs around the house while he looked for work, OH agreed and told SS19 what was expected of him. SS19 did jack all, just slept all day. dossed, ate food for the WHOLE family, went out, dossed some more, came back sat up til lord knows what time then went to bed. How cushy is that!? I complained to OH who at one point accused me of being constantly on at him! Eventually, OH saw the light and pulled SS19 up. Now, none of the kids are asked much, they are asked to clear up after themselves, not to leave cups/glasses/plates dumped in the lounge...if you used it take it the kitchen and clean it.....although BD and SD just have to take it to the kitchen......SS19 couldnt even do that.
Eventually, he left again, yet more months of no contact....this continued for a year or so....he would stay, go, ignore, stay, go, ignore which annoyed the total s**t out of me. He then came back (for the last time), and then decided to lie about me and his dad. Told his BM that I told him I didnt want him there, refused to cook for him (he was 18 at this point!) etc. OH lost his temper and said enough was enough. There is a multitude of trouble and grief and more lies all in between this.
As a relief, partner and I split for 3 months, OH moved out and took SS19 with him.........BLISS......when OH and I decided to get back together ON MY TERMS, I told him SS19 needed somewhere to live, as he wasnt coming back to ours....he agreed......then starts the following months with SS17, but thats another blog.

So my question, I have lost all respect for this kid, I give him is due cos he has found a new job, and he is running his own bedsit, but has still asked to move back to ours (OH said no). He has now started sleeping over once a week at weekends, which I can handle to a point, but once he moves to a local bedsit it will stop. I DONT EVER WANT THIS KID TO MOVE BACK INTO MY HOME, I DONT ACTUALLY WANT HIM TO STAY AT MY HOME, Is that wrong, or totally justified!?