Backround:
I have always done my best to keep the lines of communication open with DH I and BM. This has sometimes worked well but usually after a while ends up blowing up in my face because BM gets tired of playing nice. I recently laid the cards on the table for BM. I told BM if she didnt learn to communicate with me she would have to find a babysitter for skids on her days while she is at work.For the first time I couldnt control the emotion in my voice.I was livid because BM had left me to wonder where the hell skids were! What had happened was she picked them up from school and neglected to tell me.After this I told her what she needed to do to keep the current arrangement. Also that I understood that it was her decision to do whatever she and DH saw fit with the kids but we all know that the set up we have now is best for the skids.BM agreed and has been playing by the rules now for about 2 weeks.(minus the mail incident) I have been wondering as I often thought that all BM needed was to be put in her place.I did in fact do that (in a way she couldnt argue with me or try and make me look bad). Now she is behaving but I cant help to wonder if her new found co-parenting skills have something to do with BM and DH going to a mediator this week.(I arranged this) I do hold out a small piece of hope that perhaps BM has learned that life is much easier this way. My past experience tells me that I should brace myself and that this is all just a ploy to win over the mediators and once again run my DH through the ringer.I am actually nervous for DH. I wanted him to do this in the hopes that he would learn some skills on how to communicate with BM without aggrivation. I also was hoping for him to feel some vindication that perhaps these councelors will see that the blame is not entirely on my DH. BM and DH are both to blame for their mediocre roles in the lives of their children.I know that I am hoping for the almost impossible but sometimes hope is all we have...