Finding this site has been the BEST thing for me. Talking to others who KNOW what I am going through and can relate is soothing to me (meaning Im not crazy) DH took her upstairs to talk to her tonight....I doubt it will help, but its a step in the right direction. She was still up to her food antics at dinner (playing games, chewing on the same bite of food for 10 min-trying to annoy, DH actually told her to eat haha) but no disrespectful comments or looks...good so far.

Thank you all I will keep you updated....got through 6 hours without wanting to smack the crap outta her (not that I ever would, but the feeling you know?) we shall see how tom goes!