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COMMUNICATING AND GETTING WHAT YOU NEED OR WANT LADIES

Sus's picture

BOTH PEOPLE IN A RELATIONSHIP NEED TO COMMUNICATE & LEARN TO COMPROMISE FOR CERTAIN THINGS.
FOR THOSE FEELING NEGLECTED OR LONELY..AND I SEE ALOT OF THIS ON ST....HERE'S SOMEWAYS TO CHAMGE THAT....
I WOULD SET A SIDE A SPECIAL TIME TO TALK AND MAKE A SCHEDULE FOR DATES AND TIME FOR INTIMACY.
2 DATE NIGHTS A MONTH( HE TAKES YOU WHERE EVER YOU WANT ) IN EXCHANGE FOR GOURMET( NO INTERRUPTIONS) SEX 2 X A MONTH.(FAIR DEAL)

MOST MEN WOULD PREFER TO HAVE SEX AS OFTEN AS HE CAN GET IT.

MEN ENJOY THE EXPERIENCE OF HAVING A QUICKY AS LONG AS IT'S GUILT FREE...
OTHER TIMES, QUICKIES.(HE'S NOT TO EXPECT ANYTHING FROM YOU IF YOUR NOT IN THE MOOD LAY THERE LIKE A DEAD DOG) NO PRESSURE.
IF YOU DO HIM FAVOR LIKE DRIVING HIS KIDS ETC...THEN HE OWES YOU SOMETHING YOU WANT OR NEED...LIKE A MASSAGE, TIME TO READ ALONE.. REMEMBER YOU CAN HAVE A QUICKIE IN EXCHANGE ..FOR SOMETHING YOU WANT.>>.IF HE TAKES CARE OF THE KIDS MORE ETC. I'M SURE YOU CAN WRITE A LIST.
YOU TELL HIM, YOU'LL DO CERTAIN THINGS IN EXCHANGE FOR LOVING. MAYBE IF HE CUDDLES YOU..HOLDS YOU 15 MINUTES EACH NIGHT.. SO MANY TIMES A WEEK, HE CAN HAVE A QUICKIE BEFORE HE LEAVES FOR WORK.... OR HE TAKE YOU TO DINNER & MOVIES...FOR MORE OF A LOUNGING TYPE SEX..MEANING ( A LONGER SESSION TO ENCLUDE ORAL ETC, TAKE HIS TIME, TAKING CARE OF YOU). 2-3 X A WEEK
FOR INDULGING HIM WITH QUICKIES, YOU GET TO PICK SOMETHING YOU WANT..THINK OF IT AS A GIFT TO HIM..BUT WHAT WOULD YOU WANT????..THEY ( MEN ) USUALLY ONLY WANT ONE THING...WOMEN CAN HAVE MANY THINGS TO TRADE OFF FOR HIS DAILY QUICKY.

IF YOU DO THIS, YOUR SEXUAL ATTRACTION FOR EACH OTHER, WILL INCREASE DRAMATICIALLY..NO ONE SHOULD FEEL.. REJECTED OR HESITANT TO INITIATE SEX...THE FEELING THAT NO ONE WILL BE REJECTED IS ESSENTIAL TO CONTINUE TO BE PASSIONATELY ATTRACTED TO YOUR PARTNERS.
TRY IT FOR 30 DAYS...
ANOTHER WORDS....MOST MEN WANT SEX. MANY WOMEN ARE TOO TIRED TO HAVE SEX ALL THE TIME. AND WOMEN PREFER CUDDLING.
SO WORK SOMETHING OUT. SAY.. HE TAKES YOU ON A "REAL" DATE. THEN HE GETS GOURMET SEX THAT NIGHT...AS A BONUS.

WOMEN HAVE BIG NEGOTIATING POWER WHERE SEX IS CONCERNED.
" A WOMEN NEEDS LOVE TO OPEN UP TO SEX" AND MAN NEEDS SEX TO OPEN UP TO LOVE"
WOMEN NEED TO BE EMOTIONALLY FULFILLED....BEFORE SHE CAN LONG FOR SEXUAL CONTACT...WHERE AS A MAN..HOW EVER, NEEDS SEXUAL CONTACT AND GETS HIS EMOTIONAL FULFILLMENT DURING SEX......MEN NEED SEX TO "FEEL"

A WOMEN NEED EMOTIONAL SECURITY TO TALK ABOUT HER FEELINGS...
WHEN WOMEN FEEL SUPPORTED IN THE RELATIONSHIP.. SHE WILL REDISCOVER THE LOVE IN HER HEART..
ITS VERY CONFUSING FOR WOMEN,,, WHEN MEN WANTS SEX

"EVEN THOUGH HE HAS IGNORED HER ALL WEEK OR YOU AREN'T EVEN TALKING....TO A WOMEN ITS LIKE HE DOESNT CARE ANYMORE.., IF THEY EVEN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP"
....WOMEN HAVE NO IDEA THOUGH...HE BEGINS TO HUNGER FOR SEX...LOL..ITS BECAUSE HE WANTS TO RECONNECT AND SHARE LOVE...JUST AS COMMUNICATION IS IMPORTANT TO WOMEN, SEX IS THAT IMPORTANT TO MEN.
A WOMEN SEXUAL RESPONSIVENESS IS REALLY THE MOST POWERFUL WAY A MAN CAN FEEL LOVED.
I THINK INSTEAD OF ACTING ANGRY ALL THE TIME, IF YOU GAVE HIM MORE.."SEX" HE WOULD PROBABLY DO ANYTHING FOR YOU...LOL
YOU REALLY CAN GET EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT..IF YOU PLAY THE CARDS RIGHT...."HONEY, i'LL TELL YOU WHAT", "I WILL GIVE YOU LOVING (SEX) ANYTIME YOU WANT...AS LONG AS YOU DO THESE THINGS FOR ME"....99.9% HE WILL JUMP ON IT..

SOMETIMES...THINGS AREN'T GOING TO WORK OUT..SO RESHEDULE...CHANGE THE DATE NIGHT..
LEARN TO COMPROMISE..SMART WAYS,
.EVERYTHING COMES BEFORE THE COUPLE..YOU MUST MAKE TIME..SCHEDULE IT..
ALSO....SEX SHOULD "NOT" BE USED AS PUNISHMENT...EVER

ENJOY......LOL

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Most Evil's picture

I think back too, to something that my SIL told me long ago: ideally, when you are first dating a man, but now if you didn't think to do this, make sure he gets in the habit of doing things for you.

I used to be so giving that I would never get. I would expect the man to just know or guess that I would appreciate, ex. dinner out, etc. and it would never happen, because they were used to me doing everything - planning everything, organizing, doing all the work.

SIL would give my brother assignments for things that she wanted, ex. a magazine from the store, that she made sure he knew would please her, and he would do it (maybe per Sus above!).

Talking about conditions that were set for marriage, my only one was: I am not going to do EVERYTHING - like my mom did, and wore her health down to where she got sick, and my dad was oblivious and never ever thought to lighten her load. Which I consider partly her fault because she let him get away with it. Sad She was never taught to take care of herself, so she didn't know to teach me that either.

Make the man do things for you!!! and don't do it all yourself. Don't do it, let the vacuum be created, then tell specifically what you need. Tell him specific things to do, which is annoying but hopefully eventually they will figure out to look to see what is needed at the freaking store lol!!
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Jon-Boy's picture

Sounds like prostitution... LOL

But you are right.
There is something about my wife showing me love by going crazy on me sexually. Smile It just shows me. Talk is cheap. for men.

And I know if I pay attention to her in the ways she needs me she feels loved.