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Forth Entry: Eek, Feminine Products!

SusieCue's picture

DH is a "man's man", which is basically just code for "I have two daughters and I don't know anything about women, nor do I feel like I should have to learn. So if you could just take care of all the 'girl stuff', that'd be great." What it translates to in the day to day is that when asked to pick up shampoo and conditioner, he will grab a 2in1 and think he's the hero of the day. It also means that he knows squat about how periods work (even though he can look at a car engine and tell you exactly what's wrong with it. So it isn't stupidity so much as it is ignorance). SD15 uses this to her advantage, though and since I've disengaged, she's been conning DH.

Let me set the scene:

It's 9pm on a Sunday. DH has weekends off and so all weekend he has been available in some capacity. He's been to the grocery store, even. However, SD15 waits until now, right as everyone is winding down for the night, preparing for Monday and the new week. She waits until now to call up the stairs (even though DH has been downstairs spending time with SD15 and SD10 in some capacity all day long). She waits until she hears our bedroom door close, or the bathroom door. I imagine she can't differentiate which door is which, but nonetheless she waits until she hears a door close. 

"Daaaaadeeeee? Daaaaaad. Daaaaaaaddeeeee?!"

I see DH roll his eyes. He's annoyed. And yet--

"Yeah?"

"I need pads and tampons. Now. It's an emergency." 

Mind you, I used to be the one that took care of these things. I'm a female, it wasn't a big deal to buy her some when I bought them for myself. Until I got tired of the disrespect, her attitude, etc. I told DH he needed to take the control back with his girls. SD15 used to ask for period supplies a week in advance. But now, since Dadee is responsible for them, she has taken to waiting until right before bedtime, or right up until the last minute to ask. We live in a rural area. The closest store is a good 30 minutes, one way. She knows this. She also knows when she is going to start, and whether or not there are pads or tampons in her bathroom. But of course, Dadee doesn't know this. Dadee also doesn't know that she actually DOES have supplies. A Costco sized amount of them. Makes me think about the first women in space and how the men thought they went through 100 tampons a day.

You want to know how naive DH is? When I tell him, "Hey, sorry to break it to you, but not only does she have enough but she knows about when she's going to get it and could've asked earlier... Not that she needs to ask for more because she literally has a Costco pack of 96 downstairs..." 

DH says to me, "She has been asking since last month, so it isn't last minute." 

After I laugh for about five to ten I compose myself and explain that she asked last month because she was asking for last month's period. Since then, she received a large amount of supplies and I mean, I don't know for sure, but I THINK 96 pads/tampons will suffice. Unless she's planning on building a pad fort and a tampon log cabin as a project for school.

Honestly I've had it with this girl and if she isn't out at 18 then I am.

Comments

Chmmy's picture

Did he go to the store? SD used to do stuff like that. I need this and that last minute. He had to prove his love 24/7 to  all 4 kids. Maybe not SS13. He's an entitled brat but could care less about attention as long as he has everything he wants RIGHT NOW. If he needed to go to Game Stop we must drop everything and leave. I hate these kids more and more each day.

Chmmy's picture

Ps. Glanced through your other blogs. These kids are assholes. Stealing a hair straightener that had their late grandmother's hair and smell in it. Just entitled assholes. I wouldnt put it past my skids either to take the forbidden fruit even though they had an abundance because they are so very special they deserve it. Fuck that. My skids stole from me. I set them up and the money disappeared. Wish i would have been smart enough to set up a camera so I know which one.

SusieCue's picture

They really are assholes. SD10 is a little easier to tolerate (for now) but she worships her sister so it's only a matter of time before she starts being manipulative, too. As for SD15, I cannot stand her. Just being in the same room as her makes me itch.

SusieCue's picture

He didn't. He called her out once I told him and she threw a fit. But not before he asked if 96 pads were "enough to get by".

SusieCue's picture

She's asking for more because it's a power play to try to interrupt DH's alone time with me. This isn't the first time she's waited until DH and I are upstairs and she hears a door shut or knows we are in bed for the night so that she can holler up the stairs and ask some stupid question that she wouldn't normally ask if we were downstairs with her. Example: "Dadddeeee? Can I have teeaaaaaa?" When normally she'd just make tea on her own without asking.

She knew full well we had supplies. She was there when we bought them and they are in a communal linen closet.

tog redux's picture

Or if she is out - she can borrow some from her sister. Your DH is kind of silly to not crack down on this - She can make her own dang tea. 

Thumper's picture

Why is she asking for more if she already has some? I'm confused. 

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Tog so she can take them to her moms so MOM doesnt have to pay for it. You know she has no money right?

ESMOD's picture

Do you know for a fact that the supplies are still in your home?  I know that my supplies would be wiped out after the girls' visits.. they were taking them back to mom's... because SHE never bought the girls anything.  She also refused to buy tampons because she got TSS once herself from forgetting to take one out.  I bought what the girls wanted.. whatevs BM. lol.

So they would take what I bought back home....  And.. sometimes it's not 100% regular with timing.. we have all been caught out sometimes... 

SusieCue's picture

They're here. And they are still unopened, even after she was shown where they are and even after she claimed it was an "emergency".

She may be handing some out to friends but the SDs don't go to their mom's as she's a junkie with zero custody, not even supervised visits.

Ispofacto's picture

This.  And Chmmy mentioned "proving his love".  That too.  Killjoy loved the cat and mouse game.

The girl is a steaming pile of poo.

 

SusieCue's picture

Yup.

Thumper's picture

Here is a solutioin.

Dad to Kid---When you need to go to the drug store, tell me.

Kid to dad--- BUT DADEEEE, cant you go buy stuff and keep it here for me.

Dad to kid---NOPE. Oh and they stay here too. You can take 2 of each with you. When you leave. Give me the box of stuff and I will stick it somewhere until next time. Got it, good.

 

 

Thumper's picture

I hope the Grandparents have video cameras around the house. When I hear garbage stealing from their own kin it makes me sick. Especially Senior Citizens. PLEASE watch over them, ok?

Happened to us.

SusieCue's picture

Fortunately, the grandparents and great grandpa live far enough away that the SDs don't see them very often. I mean, usually that's not a plus but in this case it is because then they won't have an opportunity to steal from them again. 

SD15 has also stolen from me, most recently a bra, even though she has bras of her own. When confronted, she acted as if she was just going to "borrow it and give it back" but seeing as it was hidden waaay back in her drawer, I call bs. Not to mention it's just gross to think that she wanted something of mine that's basically underwear (oh, she's stolen a pair of my underwear, too).  I was half tempted to say, "ew, I don't want it back, just keep it." But I didn't want to encourage more of that behavior by rewarding it. 

We now have cameras in our house, not in bedrooms or bathrooms or anything but in common areas and in the hallway leading to our room so we can see if they try to go into our bedroom when we aren't home, although we haven't left them at home alone since we got the cameras because we can't trust them to be responsible for any length of time.