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Submitted by Sweet T on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 2:22pm

Hi Ladies,

So life is pretty good in the home of Sweet T. To date I have lost 44lbs and am looking awesome, BS is in therapy and is no longer sleeping in my bed, Crazy ex H is on GF # 4 ( that is 3 since July) and I have a boy friend!!!

So I will start on on the boyfriend front Smile I have been dating the Italian, New York truck driver for 2 months and he is amazing. Totally not my type, is a self proclaimed blue colar red neck... BUT he is the sweetest, kindest, soft hearted man I have ever met and I am having a blast! No kids and never married. He did live with a GF for 19 years and she cheated on him. He is crazy about me, supportive of crazy ex and how it affects both me and BS7. He is truly a wonderful friend and I am so glad that I didn't let the fact that he is very dfferent from me stop me from going out with him. He gets that I can't be rushed and everything is at my pace. ( He kind of freaked that his mom kept referring to me as his GF and I know it was because he was afraid I would freak. I finally said well what is it you think I am???? Yup girlfriend)He is in love with me :). We are having a blast, going to concerts, and getting to know each other.

BS is in therapy, somedays good, sometimes bad. I really like her, she is no nonsense. I am reading parenting through love and logic.

Crazy ex is on his 4th GF,this one is Russian. Last night we had school conferences and he was pretty good at it. Did spend 10 min telling me all about GF#4 and then at 10:30 started sending me texts thanking me for some stuff, forgiving me for sending him to jail, apologizing for being a shithead to me and our family and my personal favorite....He wishes me all the happiness in the world and hopes my new fella can give me what he couldn’t, love and support It is his goal to use all the things he did wrong with me and right the ship and treat his new GF like a princess. One last thing ( and I am not saying this to make you feel bad) But Paul Mc Cartney was right when he wrote “ The Ukrainian girls really knock me out the leave the west behind…”

I am so happy with my life. Ladies when you are unhappy sometimes you need to get out! 9 years in the blender sucked the life out of me. Being a single mom is hard, but it is so much better,

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Submitted by Sweet T on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 2:34pm

Thanks ladies. On the weightloss I work out and sort of do weight watchers. I have started working out at 4:30 in the am and love it ( although I skipped today & will do it tonight). I love exercising adnd the high you get from it.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 3:23pm

My son is my main focus. I only see the BF when BS is with his dad and we talk after he is in bed. He is on the road for 2 weeks at a time so going slow is easy.

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Submitted by Sweet T on Wed, 10/08/2014 - 6:00pm

Thanks! Being a single mom is hard,but that carp that so many step mom have to endure is crap. Disrespectful spouses,kids, crazy exes it is never ending. My life is pretty easy in comparison these days,

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Submitted by stepinafrica on Thu, 10/09/2014 - 5:55am

This is wonderful news! I love that your new guy has no kids. Please put up strong boundaries with your ex for the sake of your son. Trust me with his personality disorder, the only thing you can do is put up boundaries, boundaries, boundaries. Family counseling is just another opportunity for him to bully you. Actually any contact you have is just another opportunity for him to bully you.