i told DH... i dont think he minds.... it probably saves him from listening to me gripe everytime the BM acts up (which is a daily occurence)

my DH knows of it, I don't think he's read anything. He doesn't seem to mind other than he says I am addicted...which is sadly true.

My exFH knew. At first, he found it awesome that he didn't have to hear all my "negative worries" as he put it. He even found a few responses helpful when I shared. Then, when things went down hill, he looked for anything he could that he didn't like. Airing his dirty laundry in public being one of them. The new BF knows. I asked him if he would have a problem with me posting, and he said he was completely fine with it as long as he isn't the last one to find out what my worries are.

my husband knows about it.he appreciates my outlet for stress and WAS thinking about creating his own account.that was until i told him i do not want him here because this is not the place for domestic discussions and i know he would follow me and engage a little too much in my venting.

Dh knows about the site. He thinks it makes our situation worse because the site is 'a bunch of bitter women' giving advice. Whatever. Granted, some of the situations on here are MUCH worse than ours, but it's still nice to know that there are others out there with some of the same problems we have.

I was a member for over a year before I told my husband. I felt guilty about it, but as it helped me grow stronger, and more confident, I fessed up. I don't think he really caught what it was all about, but it's not my fault he doesn't always listen, LOL.

He did notice I was cranky the last week or two, and I said my "site" was offline, and he was complaining it better getting working fast...

I've been a member here for 2 years. In the beginning, when things were REALLY bad and DH was a true "Guilt Daddy" and had no balls to stand up to his ex wife (which was what brought me to this site in the first place), no way in heck did I tell DH about it. This place saved my sanity!

But when things finally changed, and DH "saw the light," I did finally tell him about a "site I used to help me vent with other Stepparents and get some helpful advice." Because he's an attorney, I had to ASSURE him that it was all strictly anonymous and that I would never divuldge personal info, and he was ok with it. (I don't think he ever checked it out though- and just to be sure, I deleted all my earlier posts about him and the problems I was having because of him not standing up to his daughters and ex!)

Besides, when I started to talk on the phone with these wonderful women and meet them in person, it was then impossible to keep it from him at that point! And he's totally cool with it now. I think he knows this site was instrumental in saving both my sanity and our marriage.

Thanks Dawn and Admin!

Nope, no way, no how.

For one thing…this is MY place to vent. It is nothing bad, but it is my ONE private place. I am a firm believer in full discloser, and this may be hypocritical, but I am doing nothing wrong (like a dating site or the likes) and in a way it helps me cope with the whole Step hell better than if I did not have a place like this.

And second, he does not usually see SS the way I do. He has the rose glasses on most of the time about SS. If he read it, I don’t think he would be mad, because it is all true and he would know that. I just think his feelings would be hurt a bit.

But, like I said, this is MY place. He has his buddies at work and I have yall. I can’t talk to anyone else about this stuff.

I told my DH (but only because he's SO nosey!) I don't think he was too thrilled about it at first but he's over it now. I told him it was my place to vent...and if he would rather me fly off the handle on him....I would gladly give it up! He didn't like that idea to much! HAHA He doesn't know my screen name or password though.

My DH knows, sometimes when I'm feeling down or having a hard time with skids and BM, DH will tell me to go talk to my friends. Meaning here.

Although I wouldn't want him to see what I am saying. :jawdrop:

My DH knows....he's known since I started here over 2 yrs ago. I've even made him read some of the responses to things I've posted. It's helped him see how some of his actions w/SDs have not been productive. Plus, as 4teens has mentioned, when I started having personal relationships with some of the wonderful people here, it would've made it kind of hard to conceal.

My husband does not. I use this as a tool to deal with the stress of it all. But I would never let him know how hard it really is.. cause I think he looks to me as a safe place. His X is crazy he doesn't need any other stress.

No, my hubs does not know I'm here either and I plan on keeping it that way.

Same here . No way she knows. Better because she does not believe in any outside help.

I don't know if my husband posts on here or not. I do know that if he wrote posts about my kids the way some posts here are written (I know it's venting- but it would still hurt to read- just like sweetness alluded to) our marriage would be in grave danger. I love him to peices, but if I thought he hated and couldn't stand my kids....he'd be out- they are first and he should be adult enough to recognize/accommodate that, if he can't then he can't be part of their lives, and subsequently, mine. That being said- I also don't let the kids walk all over him either.

Kids know when people don't like them- when that person is a parental figure- it can really screw them up to have years of exposure to that.

FH knows...he thinks it's a good thing that I have a place to vent and talk with people who REALLY understand what I'm going through. As much as he tries to understand, he is not a SP so he can't possibly truly see where I'm coming from.