No, he should not contribute unless BM is going to contribute to any holidays you, your BF and your SD take.

No, if she decides to take her child on holiday, she should pay. Does she contribute or expect to contribute to her child's expenses when you take her on holiday?

This is a bit of a sore point for me. My dh pays his ex a substantial amount of money towards HER holidays with their children as part of the overall CS agreement. So in effect he pays 100% for us to take his kids away and 50% for his ex to take the kids away. I thinks it's out of line - especially in the years when she was boasting about how much more money her new husband was making.

Now the recession has hit, she complains about money. She did not take her children away last summer or this summer.... (She and new hubby have had holidays alone!) and my dh is still handing her money to take the kids away!! I'm so p*ssed with him.... he says he'll talk to her before the end of the year (cs is reviewed every Jan) but I don't believe him, he loathes confrontation and would rather complain about our bills than sort out the cs properly. ARRRGH!!

Don't give a dime. If he pays support, that is enough. This is her idea on her time. She pays. I wouldn't even give the kid spending money.

This makes me laugh. To think I used to preach to DH not to send dinner and gas money with swins when going with BM -- b.c. he already paid her $850 mo. child support... Vacations w/BM were supplemented substantially too - and that's why I'll never combine my money w/DH.

HECK NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

HELLZ NO! So funny I had a post just like this a few months ago. Our BM not only DEMANDED, she berated my husband for WEEKS because he refused to contribute to her vacation with the kids. We did however buy SS17 his clothes to take on the trip. He needed some new stuff anyway so we didn't really mind.