MY fiancee has three kids and i have three kids. We have been together for three years for at first i tried to get a long with all of his kids but he wouldn't let me get close to the two younger once at this time they were 6,9 and 12. when he had his kids he would stay at his house but when he didn't my fiancee would stay with me at my house. Until we went on a fishing trip and found out the reason why he had not let his kids stay at my house yet it was because his 6 and 9 yo pee and poop in their pants and in their bed still and i have OCD my kids have OCD at this time my kids are 8,9 and 14 and they clean their own room. well my fiancee and i got a house big enough for us and the kids and loser to there mom's house so we can be close to his kids as soon as i bought the house the 6,9 yo stopped coming every two weeks for a whole year year an a half the mother broke up with her boyfriend now the 8 and 11 are coming to the house like clock work every two weeks even brings them to the house which she has never done before this has been going on for about a months an a half the 8 yo still pee's in his pant and in bed once in a while. the 9 yo pee's and poops in his pants and in his bed every night even at his moms house and no one punish the 11 yo they just let him think it is normal and it drives me crazy.my fiancee's 14 yo has always got a lot love it when he comes over and now that the 8 yo is not pee or pooping in his cloths i love it went he comes over. but when i know the 11 yo his coming my mood changes and so does my fiancee we fight every weekend they come over but when just the 14 yo was coming we never fought. my fiancee doesn't have much to do with them when they come over unless he is in his barn working on something and the kids go in there to talk that is it. i am so tired of dealing with it sometime i just want to back my stuff and leave but my kids love him and their father past away 5 years ago.