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My turn to worry about Counselling.

Thetis's picture

Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 11:38am

So me and Dh have our first counselling meeting tonight. I hope it goes well, and I hope they dont kick us out because we are getting along right now. I think this is the biggest thing on my mind. We are not fighting right now so what if they decide that we dont need to be there? We have this cycle, maybe its the moon... where we can get along for two weeks then we bicker for a week and then we FIGHT for a week.
Anyone else notice these patterns in your own relationships?
What is the first meeting with a counsellor usually like?

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Submitted by TheWife on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 11:40am

Well, I was getting along with DH for our first session too! And she didn't kick us out, so no worries!

For ours, she got a lot of background, and asked us about why we were there, what we were trying to accomplish, and asked us about our major issues as a couple.

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 11:44am

Major issues....
BM
Bm's family
The way Bm and Bms family raise SD

Umm and he leaves the toilet seat up sometimes? Blum 3

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Submitted by JJlove on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 11:45am

I know exactly where you are coming from!! Your counselor isn't going to judge you! She/ he already know that getting along comes in waves! You won't be kicked out! Lol!
We started conseling about 6mo ago and it is awesome!! Sometimes we take separate cars, but overall it's great. I will warn you though, first meeting can be a little rough! You are finally putting it all on the table to be addresses and you can't control what your partners reaction will be! I applaude you for going! You'll be fine! Good Luck!

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Submitted by Thetis on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 11:54am

Thanks for the heads up, my mom went to one counsellor once with my dad and she is convinced they're all evil. I hope this helps because we both have some crazy issues to get over.

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Submitted by I_GOT_THIS on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 12:03pm

I've been going to counseling for about 4 months now with STBX. Last night he was a no show and the counselor and i just talked and brain stormed. she told me my husband is selfish, immature and cruel.
WOW! that was enough for me.
a person can only try so hard for so long.....

good luck to you though....hope it works out for ya'll.

God will forgive me. It's his job.
~~Heinrich Heine

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Submitted by DISbelief on Wed, 04/07/2010 - 12:12pm

People don't always go to counseling because they are on the verge of divorce. I think there is room in every relationship to learn and grow! No one is perfect even if you have been having a run of good days. Just be careful that it doesn't START fights. You will be asked tough questions I am sure. Keep that positive attitude you have had, and remember that this is to BUILD your relationship skills, not tear down what you have already started!

DISbelief~

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