I get the kid. I hate boiled potatoes, but love potato salad. :?

My sister will not touch cheese unless it is melted. She won't eat a cold sandwich with sliced cheese, but will eat baked macaroni and cheese.

I can't stand picky eaters. Sd8 is just like this. She whines and pouts about food and until recently,dh would fall all over himself making different foods for her when she rejected one meal. I don't play that game. Eat it or starve. It is a control mechanism these bratty skids use.

Overheard DH talking to SS3 like this this morning. He had given him a shower and was dressing him for prek. He asked SS if he wanted eggs and sausage this morning or toast and oatmeal. He chose eggs and sausage then retracted saying he doesn't like sausage. DH was like "son, you love sausage and you eat it all the time, you will eat it if I cook it" so then SS asked if he could cook his own eggs because MOMMMYYYY lets him do it. He told him "I will cook, you will eat" ...as the StepLife turns....

PS she does actually let him sit next to the stove on the counter top and cook his own eggs, DH has told her not to, that that's insane and unsafe. She doesn't care.

SD4 gets choices for breakfast and lunch, like yoghurt or cereal for breakfast and/or does she want something warm or cold for lunch. Aside from that theres little input from SD as to what is made.
I do let her help me prepare food, she is a very calm 4 year old and listens to instructions. I cook a variety of foods, from indian, thai, chinese across to traditional english, anything I fancy really. I dont cook with salt so the only real adjustment I do is if we are having a curry and SD is with us then I wont make it too spicy

I think it would drive me crazy if she one minute liked one thing and the next didnt. Drives me crazy with her school lunches as she likes to swop what she takes with her

I have a friend who only likes canadian bacon pizza...if the CB is CUBED and not sliced!

SS would eat canadian bacon like crazy but wouldn't touch ham. SD would only want to eat pizza if it was Pizza Hut or homemade. We got a take-and-bake once and told her it was homemade Pizza Hut and she ate a bunch of it.

Food control is a pain in the rear. When I was a kid, we ate what my mom made and were happy that she made it for us! The most pandering we did with meals was that my mom was allergic to tomatoes so we couldn't have pizza (unless we ordered it from the place that also had chicken) or spaghetti.

Unless it McDonald's or Taco Bell "it's nasty" according to ss9. And then we have Togo through a crying fit. DH just tells him he will sit there until he eats .. Poor baby

I get this from my disabled DH, seriously!  His eating habits are reverting back to a spoiled child. I understand totally.  

When I met DH, my bio son 7 was going thru a stage of picky eating.  My DH, grown SD, and grown SS's were constantly after my bio son to eat, quit picking at your food, blah..blah...blah.  Now I no longer have my bio sons, and I will never forget how they yakked at him about his eating; now they are worse than he ever was. 

My solution to the eating habits;  fix a meal, put it on the table, sit down and eat.  If a child does not eat, let it go.  I always tried to fix something I thought everyone would eat; if they didn't eat, I let it go.  If they wanted a snack later, let them have a healthy snack.  They will get past this stage and eat you out of the house when they become teens.  

Your SD7 is playing a game and pushing your buttons.  Don't let her do this to you.  My SD57 tried this for 30 years.  One time I planned a nice family dinner, SD invited herself and her DH; I told SD right out, "you won't like what I am fixing, so you can come visit the family, after dinner".  I just never played the games. 

Your question about "liking strawberries" was a good answer to her, but then let it go and serve her toast with peanut butter, no strawberries.  If she doesn't eat it, offer nothing else.  Good Luck, this is just one game your SD will play; they try them all.