SO and I went to her school last week and spoke to the guidance counselor.  As it turns out, there were parent-teacher conferences that night so we went back to speak to every teacher.  Her attendance is horrid and she's failing almost every class. Monday started a new semester - if she goes to class everyday and does the work and makes up some past work, it is possible she can graduate.  Almost every teacher says she's very bright and capable of doing the work. SO spoke to her and she said she would.  The next day she sent a text to SO and to my daughter who is a teacher at the school to say she needs them to back off her cause she's feeling pressured, blah blah blah.  I said BULL!  She has her issues but seems to be doing better as far as the depression goes.  Sometimes she says she stayed in bed all day cause she was depressed but lo and behold, she's at her boyfriends that night.  She needs to be held accountable.  He agrees with me.  Really though, what can he do?  BM's advice when she called him on Monday?  BM said that she thinks SD needs to be put on more meds.  That's her solution to everything - pills!  So frustrated.  SD is 18 so she goes to her doctor on her own - BM has no say in her treatment anymore so she wants SO to be on her side and talk to SD.  He refuses cause he believes more pills is not the answer.   If she doesn't graduate though  - no parties (obviously), no money, no nothing.