Haven’t been here for a while - update
Where do I start... not much has changed on the weekend schedules for us. We maybe have an extra night together which doesn't make that much difference..... I'm really questioning whether or not this life is for me. Step parenting a child who has no respect for anyone is so hard. Why am I expected to love and treat this child as my own when really we haven't connected at all since our new baby was born. There's been a few instances of carelessness on SS behalf with the new baby which were quite dangerous and I would just not want to risk anything happening to my child. If anything, it's made me feel a type of way to SS since these instances happened...
A couple months back (and also the last time I saw SS) we had a day out and it was the worst day ever. I wanted to go home the moment we got into the car together. He will repeat and repeat questions just so you respond to him or to hear his own voice I'm not even sure anymore?? It was a 45 minute car ride to destination and I counted the same question 15 times? His dad ignores him and I end up just tuning him out.
ive asked more about his diagnosis but it's xtremely hard to get it when his dad doesn't know more den basic details and his mum is no help! I can bet your bottom dollar since covid happened as well there is no further help being given to these kids with behavioural issues and therapy etx!!! I question both parents (in my head of xourse ) and think how can you parent this child and not help him overcomes these disabilities and hurdles? How is he going to be a respectful, responsible and independent adult when he is 18? If he is this delayed now and you are both not doing anything to help him? What does mom do with the CS paid? So many questions that shouldn't even be a question!!!
I am constantly questioning why I am here. I am so happy I do not have to see SS every weekend. I do my best to avoid it and I've been successful thus far but how long can I avoid it for? I love DH BUT is it worth the stress? Am I wasting my time, his time and everyone else's time by hanging on to hope that things may change in the future?
I can't imagine living with SS!!! It sounds dreadful to be quite honest.
signing out,
tiredfrustratedandDONE.
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Therapy should still be going
Therapy should still be going on, might be via video if you are in a high COVID area. I am in the child mental health field and we are seeing kids/families via video AND in person, though I am in a low COVID state. But it sounds like your DH doesn't even participate in his therapy anyway.
Personally, I'd go back to you not seeing SS or DH at all for those weekends. Yes, your son misses out for now, but eventually he will be old enough to see his father on weekdays when he gets home. I wouldn't deal with SS if DH won't parent him.
The alternative is leaving, but then your child will have to deal with SS on weekend visits.
Yeah no therapy apparently
Due to covid they have held off on it (?). To be honest, I just thinkits the money on the special help that doesn't want to be spent.
I think I will have to disengage (further) and for a while longer to see how it goes? Don't know if that is a feasible option since we were meant to move together in a couple months.