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TOBS32's picture

Hello everybody, I have been having alot of issues with my fiance BM for the past 4years now. She just thinks she can do what she wants when she wants. I hate the fact that my fiance has to talk to her at all, because his BM has been the stress of our relationship since day one. I try not to let her bother me but it does. My fiance BM text last night at 10:30pm saying what was your friend name that introduced us.She already knew the answer because it's her husband name. I text her back and said if it's not about your child together then you don't need to be text ing. She reply back, I seen him and he asked about you, not trying to holler, but I think it's so funny you can call me or text me random sh@@. You don't see my name on your contacts, like I do on mine. She's called my fiance mom last year saying o he still into me. I'm just so sick of it. I asked my Fiance about it, he's always saying I don't know why she do what she do, but she's lying, I only call or text her and talk about my son that's it. I don't believe him I think when I'm not around it's more conversation going on, than he let's on. So he might be just calling about his child, but it's boosting her ego up to think, he making up stuff to call me about there son to just to talk to me. Has anybody had this problem and how did your mates stop it. I told him time and time again, you need to check your BM and she will stop this if you do it right. She has another son by another guy and she don't bother him because he has other children and he's not having it, But my Fiance is Mr. Nice and only has 1 child and it's with her, So she plays games with him, and when he do tell her something she don't take him serious and continues on with her drama and it doesn't help that my fiance family kisses her butt,That makes it even worse. I just need some answers on how to handle this, from people on here who goes through this to.

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oneoffour's picture

After 4 yrs she isnt going to stop now. She gets enough feedback from your fiance to continue this game.

You cannnot MAKE her stop nor can you control other people.

Make a new life for yourself. He gets enough out of the cat and mouse game to continue. The only one upset by this 4 yr game is you. Ever wondered why your fiance hasnt stopped this in the past if it upsets you so much?

SoTired1's picture

I'm going to send you a private message when I get a chance. Your situation sounds so much like what I've gone through & to this day the BM drama is unyielding. But, I will tell you this much right now . . . do not believe the hype of BM saying your fiance still has the hots, attraction, or anything (that's mere drama & ridiculously childish). Believe me, if your fiance wanted her in such a way he would not be engaged to you. She's just trying to cause havoc in your relationship & you're allowing her to succeed in her mission. I'll be in touch soon . . . keep your head up. Btw, know your fiance cannot control [how] anyone else behave no more than you have control in how BM or anyone else behaves. You [only] have control of your very own actions. Stay postive.

SisterNeko's picture

I know what you are going through. I like a lot of BM's do this (i know mine does) and I know for a fact that my BF does not like her at ALL. But BM's tend to live in their own little world and will find something in everything to give them hope. Not sure if your BM does this but when BF let's her know his true feelings she is hurt and crushed and it's some how all mt fault but after a week or two she find new hope and is back to her old tricks.

It's not going to end - but if you find a way to stop it. Please let me know.