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straw that broke the camel's back

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Submitted by truebloodfreak on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 2:34pm

I went thru my SS9cell phone.it doesn't work he just uses it to play with and take pictures. He left.it in our room so I look through it and see the text message outbox has a message to my number " your a stupid bitch from SS name" . Now my SS9 can barely.spell.the word dog so I don't know if it was him or his older brother SS14 . But either way as the woman who has been taking of them.for 4 years because their BM is. Deadbeat loser. It hurts to see that. My relationship with SO has been nothing but fights,no trust, bad communication for months. I think that was a sign that I was asking for to make my decision to leave the house. My SO tells me to move out when we fight. I think this time I've reached my limit. I will not be there to help out if I feel no love and we're already living separate lives even though we live together.

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Submitted by ThatGirl on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 2:36pm

If you're SO says you should move out whenever you have a fight, then I think you should go. Regardless of what his kids type about you on their phone.

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Submitted by puttingupwithdr... on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 4:00pm

OMG my fiance says that to me too. I go thru fight after fight about his idiots 21 and almost 18 that live with us. The mother is a deadbeat drunk and never does anything for them. I hate them so mabe she does too. But I know how you feel because i am contemplating the same thing.

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Submitted by Doubletakex3 on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 8:36pm

Seriously?! OMG

Since we've moved into a house I bought FDH hasn't thrown out the line about me moving out but he did threaten to move out. My response was, "Trust me, I won't be jumping in front of the moving truck to stop you." He hasn't "gone there" since. LOL

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Submitted by DaizyDuke on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 2:40pm

Kids will be kids especially at that age and I can only imagine the things that I would have "pretend texted" my step dad at that age (I hated him most of the time) but that's neither here nor there, I'm with TheGirl in that if your SO is making comments about you moving out each time you get in a fight, then you should probably take him up on the offer.

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Submitted by Auteur on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 3:37pm

The fact that your DH will probably defend SS "being a kid" shows that both he and his spawn have zero respect for you as an adult/parental figure who should have authority to exercise.

I know what you mean by "feeling no love" and "living separate lives." The sooner any woman exits StepHell the better IMHO!! Better than staying and having wasted more years in an unrequited "relationship" (DH chases spawn, spawn chases DH's wallet, SM chases DH)

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Submitted by Stressed Out Mom on Mon, 12/05/2011 - 6:19pm

My boyfriend said that to me once. THe next day he found out from my son that I was making arrangements to move. He was devestated! He came to me in tears apoligizing and he has never ever said anything like that to me again if we have an argument. We dont argue very often so when he got that nasty I took it very serious.