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Maybe Im over thinking?

tryingtobecalm's picture

So Dh gets a text from an old girlfriend a couple of weeks ago(She is not crazy BM by the way just an old gf and they split amicably) She asks if she can book him to go and clean her car (not totally crazy as my husband runs his own car valeting business). He told me she had been in touch and asked how I would feel if he did the job.I said i did feel a bit weird but shes a paying customer and things are tight so I totally understand if he decides to do it. He decided to do it and everything was fine. infact he came home telling me how I was head and shoulders the best woman he's ever had.
The other day I used DH phone only to notice she had texted him again this time to ask if he could come back and do her brothers car. DH had texted back that he wasnt available that day. She texted back to say she didnt mind when he came but he replied he was absolutely booked up so would not be available for the forseeable future. (I do the admin for the business...we are nowhere near fully booked).
I'm pretty sure hes not going out of concern for me but I cant help wondering why he didnt tell me she'd been back in touch??? or if the real reason hes said no is bcos he still feels something for her???
Hes usually so open and honest its just kicked my mind into overdrive. Am i reading too much into this?

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tryingtobecalm's picture

Yeh my gut is telling me I have nothing to worry about, he is a fabulous guy. Its just in my mind this woman is everything im not.. shes tall and blonde, Im a petite brunette, she is absolutely loaded.. I dont have two pennys to rub together, Hmmm maybe I just need to chill.

HadEnoughx5's picture

You may think she is everything you are not, but what makes you think she is everything he would want? He's obviously very happy with what he has and that's you!

HadEnoughx5's picture

^^^^^I AGREE^^^^^^

Sounds like he's a keeper! He's setting boundaries and keeping you and his marriage # 1. Wink

tryingtobecalm's picture

Not sure, my gut is telling me he didnt tell me bcos he has no intention of seeing her again and in his head its not a big deal but I was taken for an absolute fool in my last marriage and find it very hard to trust. DH knows this which is why he suggested what he calls an open phone policy.. I can use his phone read his emails anytime I want. I rarely do but knowing he doesnt mind helps. I suppose I just cant see what he sees in me especially when hes got exes sniffing around!!

New second wife-step-mom's picture

Most of the time I am an over thinker on things (especially related to my marriage) but this I would drop and just be sooo happy that DH's "radar" didn't like something and he choose to not go back.

*** Edited to add* Are you concerned that he had sex with her that day and that is why he came back saying your the best he has had???

tryingtobecalm's picture

He is always brutally honest it was what attracted me to him in the first place so I dont think anything happened. He broke up with her in 2006 and was single for most of that time until meeting me in 2011 (apart from a drunken one night stand in 2007 resulting in SS4 and crazy bitch BM) He had plenty of time to get back with her before I came along but never did. He describes her as a nice enough girl but she had honesty issues and he decided she wasnt for him. I think this is my issue rather than his.I just needed to talk about it Smile Thanku everyone.

HungryEyes's picture

I think your DH sounds like a good man and you should be proud of him. Give him some extra lovin'. He's with the one he wants.