So. I am really feeling like my marriage might be over.

Yesterday, DH went out of town for business in Nashville. Things were already tense between us this week for various reasons. Then, I find out while he's on the road that he picked up SD19 to take her to Nashville with him. This is the stepdaughter who quit coming over the moment she turned 18...and who was reliably nasty and hurtful to him for 6 years before that. Just evil, evil mean behavior every time she was here. He took her out for her 19th birthday in November and he came home sobbing because she was so nasty and mean to him. Told me he wasn't going to make any more overtures to her.

I told him that I was unhappy about this because 1.) When I suggested that I go to Nashville he said he had a lot of business / meetings and I should just stay home, 2.) HE DIDN"T TELL ME HE WAS TAKING HER, and 3.) He has yet to make his full deposit from his business account into our household account for February...and I've put in an extra $800 to cover our expenses because he's short $1,000. So...he doesn't have the money to contribute to the household, but he can afford to buy meals for his disgusting daughter for four days in Nashville.

I am just livid and disgusted. He says that I do things with money and with friends / family all the time without consulting him first...and that she spontaneously called him the morning of the trip and said she could go and he "couldn't say no" because she so rarely wants to see him...etc., etc., etc. I get it. I get the pull of the prodigal daughter. But I don't want to subsidize it. I told him that I actually don't do things "all the time" without consulting him...I don't make ANY major purchases without consulting him (and I would consider buying 12 meals out for someone a major expenditure), and that any money I do spend is only spent AFTER I've made my household contribution for the month.

It's like arguing with a bonafide idiot. He says its not my concern because it's a business trip and he's using his business account so I'm not paying for it. WTF??? Yes I am if you don't pay your half for February and I pick up the slack. We shouldn't spit 50/50 anyway since two of his kids still come here and eat food and use utilities...so I'm already subsidizing his kids. This month, I paid 75% of expenses. He also tries to make it sound like it was all spontaneous...a spur-of-the-moment thing. BS. The only way she would know he was going is if he told her and invited her...which he should have asked me about, especially given the finances.