Some Venting:

As I mentioned awhile ago in a post - BM is preggers to her boyfriend that gave her the boot - and then she got back together with him and a month later...she was pregnant. FSD's told us the other day that their mommy is naming the baby after what my FMIL wanted to name one of the girls if they were going to be a boy...a name she and FH were going to use for her oldest daughter if she'd been a boy? WTH? What a weirdo...They also told us "Mommy thinks it's funny daddy will be mad - we know our "mom's boyfriend" is mad..." Are you seerriiouuss? It's already messed up enough her BF/Baby's daddy has the same name as her ex(my FH) and it's even weirder the guy has a brother with the same name as my FH's brother too...But now this?

The BIG issue I need some help on PRONTO:

A week ago FH went to the courthouse and requested a petition for alteration of his CS. It has been 4 years and when it was set it was set to the highest amount based on his income only because BM refused to work. Now...she has a full-time job. Child Support specifically states it should be based on both parties income...there are now two incomes and it needs to be adjusted. FH provides: CS, Medical, Dental, and Vision Insurance. We have them every weekend - it used to be every Thursday into Friday from 9 a.m. until noon- and the same times Saturday into Sunday. A year ago he was told he had to come back to work Sunday-Thursday so now he only has them every Saturday into Sunday...the guy's gotta work...Friday is "our" day. We also take them school shopping - and they have a WHOLE wardrobe provided by us here at his parent's house...so we also cover the expenses of food and everything else on the weekend.

Today, BM received the letter and the date of the meeting in front of someone from Domestic Relations. She is enraged. She called FH's house and told his father only the "grandparents" may see the girls...until Decemeber when the meeting is held? There is no custody agreement but she can't tell us we cannot see them?!?!? Who died and made her boss? And why should the grandparents beable to see the kids and not us? Hello - I just dropped $300 of OUR money we saving for a house on school clothes!! (New Balance Sneakers, Sketchers, Old Navy, The children's place, etc.) Apparently, she thought she could just get away with HIM just supporting them? She pays NO bills at her boyfriend's house - he even takes care of her car payment?

What are we going to do when we "try" to pick them up Saturday? What if she calls the police? What should we do? Any advice? I know we are going to have to get some kind of custody agreement on paperwork...