I am probably going to sound really obnoxious, but it seems like a lot of kids recently are incapable of dealing with the slightest inconveniences. My upbringing was much more priviledged than SD7's but I had extended family who were very typically stoic, protestant work ethic rural types so things usually roll off my back. DH and I have both worked manual labor jobs in places without AC in East Texas, so we are both pretty unbothered by stuff like that.

SD, on the otherhand, refuses to go outside if it is any hotter than 80F, or colder than 60F. A scraped knee will result in 30 minutes worth of crying, hyperventilating, and screaming. She will refuse to drink water and then freak out when she starts to feel thirsty when playing outside. I can't entirely blame her though, because her grandparents, who used to be her caretakers, are obsessed with how much government dole they can receive and are obsessed with instant gratification and comforts. That's why I have so far avoided yelling at her "toughen up!" like my family did to us when we were kids. I don't think it helps that a lot of her friends and classmates are kind of wimpy, either. She is also seemingly incapable of dealing with boredom. I know she is young but it is unreasonable IMO that a 7 year old insists on being indoors 24/7 with all adult attention on her. 

DH complains endlessly about how she cries and cries at the slightest hint of boredom and inconvenience, but will then swoop in to fix all of her problems! Stop offering her the television as soon as she starts to complain about being bored! I got her art supplies and crafty stuff for this exact reason. She also has toys and needs to practice her reading and writing. She is going to summer school and will need extra learning with us. There is plenty for her to do. I get onto him about this all of the time. I am starting to sound older than I actually am with the "when I was a kid..." but I credit my resourcefulness and creativity to the fact that when I was bored my parents did not bend over backwards to entertain me, and I had to make do with what I already have. I reached adolescence already having achieved above average skill levels in several hobbies/life skills. 

DH supposedly wants to live the "simple life" and move out of the city but because he has lived in a huge city forever I don't think he realizes how "country" kids live, e.g. without constant access to stores and instant gratification. Growing up in rural SC with my grandparents during the summers meant that we weren't given toys every time we got bored, my grandparents certainly didn't bring home plastic crap everytime they made their weekly trip out to town. We had to find our own entertainment in addition to doing yardwork every weekend from the age 7 onwards. We had to trudge through grandma's bramble patches to pick berries, chase down the dogs when they escaped, and mulch the garden beds, to name a few activities. I would love to return to this sort of living, and I have told that if DH really wants to do this with me it will be easier for everyone involved if we start to "train" SD to withstand a little bit of physical discomfort and boredom. I think he agrees with me, but his own personal weakness and guilt prevent him from putting it into practice. When we tell her to play by herself for a bit, or to find something to do, she runs to her room, slams the door, and will sob for a good 15 minutes, all while saying "I hate you dad, I hate you SM!" and he starts to feel hurt and guilty for her. I tell him to not feel bad, that she is just pushing our buttons and trying to get out of entertaining herself for 15 minutes, and that temporary emotional discomfort is going to make her stronger in the long term. Oh well. I have told him very plainly that if we have a child together that I plan on raising him or her the complete opposite of how SD was raised, he seems hurt when I say this but it is only the truth.