Right way to handle the situation or not?
So, Friday I took FSD(7) out with me to run some errands because she needed to get her bangs trimmed. I had to drop our vacation and wedding pictures off to get developed and had told her as a special treat she could pick any pricture that she wanted out of the 300 that I was getting developed and I would buy her a picture frame so that she could put it in her room. (To my surprise she picked a picture of me.) Neither my BD(7) or SS(5) got this as a special treat. I made an appointment for her and then took her out to lunch while we waited. After her hair appointment I bought her some new clothes let her pick out treats for everyone and went and picked up the pictures.
After we got home I sent her across the street to go swimming at the neughbors while I put together the photo album, which took me hours btw. She came home before I was finished and began to nag me about putting her photo that she picked in the frame that I bought her. I had to tell her several times that I would do it as soon as I was done.
When I finally was able to do it I put the picture that she had picked out of me in the frame and gave it to her. She immediately got mad at me and told me she didn't pick that photo to which I replied yes you did. She proceeded to argue with me about it and then finally pushed the picture frame away from her and told me she didn't want it. So I told her that was fine, grabbed the frame, told her that I would give it to somebody who wanted it, and walked off. She proceeded follow me screaming at me in this possessed voice, "GIVE IT BACK TO ME." I just ignored her and walked out side to where DH was.
She ended up losing her movie that night but still got to read in bed and listen to music, DH's punishment not mine, and I didn't give her the picture frame back and I don't think I'm going to.
What do you guys think? Should I give her the frame back or give it to my BD?
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See how she is tomorrow. Let
See how she is tomorrow. Let her know if she hurt your feelings or not. If that's important to you.
Make her own her behavior:
Make her own her behavior: apologize for treating you bad and lying. If she wants the photo after that, she has to ask for it.
After all, that's how people in the real world function.
let it go..
let it go..
Do NOT give it to BD. That
Do NOT give it to BD. That would send the way wrong message to SD. (And BD.)
I think I'd let her know that you don't appreciate the attitude and it hurt your feelings.
If you give her the pic or not is up to you.
My DD11 has been like this lately. Attitude!! She's been missing out on a lot of things. Last one: she had a musical concert and wanted to get a treat/eat afterward. We decided to go get ice cream and she pitched attitude in the car. I told DH to go ahead with the boys and enjoy. I was taking DD straight home. (We had two cars.) So, everyone got to celebrate after her concert but her. It sucks, but I don't want a daughter who's a bitch. }:)
The best thing I heard as a
The best thing I heard as a child from a therapist was the reason kids will pick fights with you is because they are testing you to make sure you really love them and you aren't going to desert them down the road. They want to make sure your love is unconditional.