My fiance and I are getting married in 2 month! He has come into the relationship with 2 girls now 10 and 7. Their mother is, how can I put it nicely, unstable? Insane? Down right crazy!?!?!? Granted there is a sorted history between the 3 of us that I will not go into, but it has been almost 10 years and I am involved in the kids' lives 100% to her dismay of course. I would like to start blogging and writing about the various issues that come up in our dynamic with my spouse and the kids. the past 2.5 years have had there ups and downs, but my little family has grown closer. We all live together now and have been for a year. My fiance and I did take things slow and integrated VERY slowly with me being in the girls' lives. There have been ups and down, but more ups than anything, and the only downs we had were because of the ex-wife. She uses the kids as pawns, she says horrible things about us to the girls, she manipulates things and feeds the girls all sorts of crap about us. She has stolen from us on several occassions, lied to the kids, she doesn't show up to their activities. Oh, did I mention she is a alcoholic, which makes everything 10x worse! We are the only stability in our kids' lives. The ex hates me and rants about how I have taught the kids table manners, how I have created a chore chart and enforce responsibility, when their mother buys them everything and gets them any pet they want, meanwhile rants about how I wont even let the girls have a hermit crab. There is so much to talk about and share, but I really don't want to relive everything. I just want to know that I am doing the right thing and doing right by my kids. I want them to grow to be, smart, healthy women and not make the same mistakes I did, pretty much what any parent would want. I am just fighting against a force that seems relentless and that I will never be able to do anything right. This woman has even admitted that she is not cut out to be a mother...I have a lot of resentments I guess that I am working on letting go, and a lot of unanswered questions tha I am not ready to ask my spouse.

In this blog I am going to write about the obsurdities of the ex wife, the fun I have with my family, and the small milestones that I reach with my step children. I hope to get feed back and read stories similar to mine. Thnx!!!!

Jenny