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Wah-wah-11's picture

A few weeks ago hubby and I had a blow up over one of the steps. This ended with him saying I only want him to beat the shit out of that kid all day every day. No hubs not true, however, maybe if you did wear him out for a few days every time I didn't mind or treated me like shit he night stop.

So last night that step kid was throwing rocks and telling OUR child to do it. Hubby said don't and step kid continued and continued to encourage bio to do so. So I say bio your daddy ask you not to do that so please stop. He picks up a rock and starts to throw it.. I say if you do that you're going to get your butt busted bc you have been told to stop. Bio says ok I won't and lays the rocks down.. Step keeps throwing them & not a word is said.

As we are leaving that kid is throwing rocks at the other steps butt. Hubby says stop. Step doesn't so other step kid picks up a rock and I said don't do it you guys were just told not to.. He lobs it up in the air and it lands on other ones head ... (No injuries thank goodness just some crying). Hubby is fussing at him for throwing it and I say well bust his ass ...

BOOM! All I want his for him to beat those kids all the time ... Are you for real??
So bed time comes .. And he wants to play around and talk and love up on me .. Oh no don't you even think of touching me .. In fact you can take ur ass in their and sleep with .. Of course he didn't and suddenly it was can I just hold your hand while we sleep?

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ally-bamagrl's picture

Oh I would have been furious! I call SS the "golden child". He is 10 and our bios are 3 and 5. They get in more trouble than SS does!

Maxwell09's picture

Really I don't think spanking them would have changed anything but make them hate you. They know you are the one encouraging their dad to get on to them so it'll just end up with both them and your Dh blaming you for everything. From the scenario they seem like stubborn brats and they are showing you that they are above you and your standards. My suggestion would be the next time pull this crap just correct your bio and say nothing to their dad. Go to their room and take away something important to them (iPod, Internet password, etc). When they ask you for whatever it is back just say "do you remember when your dad asked you to.....and instead of listening you...." Then go back to whatever you were doing. Ignore their request for whatever it is back. I suggest this instead of spanking only because they seem to be the type that would take a beating if they feel like their cause is worth it. When your DH attacks you or asks you why you have locked them off the Internet or TV or whatever just tell him that they defied him and those were the consequences. If he didn't like them then he should have disciplined them himself.

Wah-wah-11's picture

If they did something to the neighbors house their heads would roll. One time one of them tried to throw a piece if trash in one of the a truck and I said don't do that and DH said what and when I said what he jumped all over him..
If I removed myself that's wrong ... And I regularly take Ds to our bedroom when SS is having a meltdown shit fit ..

Wah-wah-11's picture

He was throwing rocks at my other step son not mine ..he just don't want me to call them down