I am thankful for this site....I just found someone who said everything that is on my mind! I feel guilty for disliking my live in boyfriend's children so much. I love him and his family but these two get on my last nerve. The SS is almost 20 and home for the summer from college. I am counting the days til school starts (about 30). He is so lazy and dingy. I have no idea how he made it throught a year of college. When asked to do chores, he does them "half ass". I don't think anyone has ever taught them to do a thing. SD has gotten a little better but I have spent over a year training her. Their dad and I pretty much only fight about the two of them. The grew up in another city so have NO friends here. She works but he doesn't so I NEVER get a break from these two. Sadly, their mother is deceased which makes me feel works about disliking them so much. I adore their dad but he is a typical "weekend" dad who has always been the fun dad who let them do whatever. I recently told him that if they weren't almost 18 and 20, I would have to move on. Nearly every argument we have ever had has been about them. The sad thing is that they are very boring kids who don't drink, do drugs, or get in trouble. I guess I should feel differently, but I just can't. I am a counselor but I can't follow my own advice in this situation. How do you get over the fact that everything they do irritates the hell out of me!!!!