well i am going back to denver on friday and i think we have made some progress here. my bf has really made strides with his communication, his honesty, his therpay sessions and keeping consistant boundaries with his ex. it's funny, ever since he sent her the email establishing boundaries, he has forwarded me all of the emails including the nasty ones calling him an a**hole and she hated him. we have opened up to eachother more than we ever have. the funny thing is shortly after he set the boundaries and after she sent the nasty emails, her bf showed back up in the picture. she brought him to sd's soccer game last weekend and they went up to my bf and she asked if he will switch a weekend with the kids because hre and bf had something special planned. my bf replied 'i don't think it's a problem but let me check with my fiance to make sure we have nothing going on that weekend either'. that made me feel great!

so i can't say it's all going to be rosey when i return but at least a tremendous amount of progress has been made and i can't walk away from a man who as turned his words into action. we're also prepping for his vasectomy reversal the week i get back so we'll see.

during all of this i took off my engagement ring before i left and told him that we could never even think about getting married with all of the crap that has surfaced and that things needed to seriously change before taking another step. last night he asked me to marry him again and to put my ring back on. i told him we will discuss that when i get back. progress on the phone is one thing but seeing it in person for my own eyes is another.

wish me luck!