Ya. I'd say she is definitely making a dig at you

Does she have a BM to which she might be referring?

Block her. Of course she pointed that little nugget at you. Remove her from your life totally.

Ignore her...she is just having a pity party.
And don't get me wrong...I have a similar situation. I raised my SD from the age of 5 until 17.
She had zero contact with her BM from the age of 12 until 17.
To her and everyone else, I was her mom.
But the second she could she put a knife in my back and turned on me.
BM came back and started throwing money at her to make up for the abuse SHE caused and I
was pushed away.

I would be pissed too if I were you, but just don't act on it.
Like a lot of children, negative attention is better than NO attention.
She is just trying to get a reaction out of you.
Block her from FB so you don't have to see the rubbish.

She's probably looking for some victim-attention, ignore the whore. If anything you could post something equally as ambiguous about how hard it is raising a stepkid. I would personally be hurt if my SS4 ever posted that about me but then again what I just read reminds me of his mother so I would probably ask him to clarify who he meant then block him if it's about me so I don't keep setting myself up to get my feelings hurt.

I read this and thought, yes, my SD13 could write that too. Why? Because I parent her, I say no to her, I don't believe everything she says, I have expectations and limits for her. And she dislikes it. She is not mine, she is the product of her absentee mother, and I have no doubt she'd push me in front of a bus if her mother reappeared. But IMO the skids are what they write about, they are the ones who can "flip like a switch", and change at the drop of a hat.

So if you really feel she is referring to you, I'd block her too. The feelings go two ways, we seem to get blamed for most of it but I do believe a lot of the skids act this way more often. Just my opinion.

It could have been written about "anyone" really. the post mentions moms, parents and significant others. It's likely she copped this from somewhere else and just reposted it right?

So.. it could be she is referring to you... or your DH... or it could actually be her bio mom. She may have given the appearance of disney but maybe mommy has her flaws too?

It also mentions significant other. Is she dating someone that maybe could be abusive?

My OSD occasionally would post things on FB like "how children of divorce love differently" etc.. articles about why they can't connect because mommy and daddy didn't live together. I think it was passive aggressive ways to try to throw guilt out there. Of course her grandmother (my MIL) would always get all crybaby about it and "poor OSD". I called bullshit on it and said she just posts this crap to get under her mom's skin and to get attention. (dad doesn't do FB too much bless his heart).

Don't get me wrong, I kindof understand how being a kid of divorce is going to change your perception of family and relationships but seriously if you are having issues, go see a counselor, you gain nothing by posting this stuff that is only meant to make others feel sorry for you and make your parents feel some guilt.

Anyway, these passive aggressive posts are best ignored. Who knows who the real target was. I would just block/unfollow/unfriend..whatever works best.

"...DH says I should just block her so I dont see the stuff..I am not going to do that..would rather see the crap..so I know what is out there!! "

I don't know who she is writing about. However, I think your DH gave you good advice. What need do you have to read every little thing she says and feels? Are her 'friends' on FB your 'friends'? Anyone who reads her stuff (such as family members/extended family and/or people who actually know you) aren't going to take the ranting's of a 21yr old "who is immature and lives for pokemon and video games" very seriously. After all, people who matter and are actually associated with you know better. As others here noted those people may believe she's writing of her actual biological mother (who didn't bother to raise her for ten years or they know themselves that you are not an abusive stepparent. They've watched you raise her and those people know you well.

"DH says I should just block her so I dont see the stuff..I am not going to do that..would rather see the crap..so I know what is out there"

He's right. You are just giving her space in your head and twisting yourself in knots over something that probably has nothing to do with you.

And what if it did? What if you are right and it is a dig at you?
What are you going to do about it other than get yourself upset, upset and drag DH and others into it? I don't see any good good coming out of you knowing what is out there.

In my case BM is building a house and posting all about it on FB. I'm not her friend but we share a lot of friends and her posts show up on my feed occasionally. Then I go creep her page.
It always makes me feel bad because I want to build a house with DH and there she is doing it. I have to stop myself and ask why I'm doing this to myself.
Know what is out there is just filling your head with angst that you don't need, block her and walk away. Live a happy stress free, SD free life.

Sounds like you had a good reason to disengage, so I don't know if I'd re-engage over this. But, if I did decide to engage, I'd take her post at face value.

"Oh, SD, what a good discussion to start! It's so important to find that balance between trusting your own judgement and supporting a friend in need. Of course, keeping an open mind and gathering information for yourself is important, but so is being a kind and loving person towards the people who have been there for you. I think maybe the best thing is to help your friend see their good and strong qualities, so that they can take the steps they need to in order to improve their lives. Wishing you well!"

Nicely passive-aggressive in return if that's how her original message was intended, but if not, sage advice that all her FB-friends will read and further reinforce how nice you are. Lol.

Or, you could go all-out aggressive and say, "And some people you just can't take seriously."