Last night, SS18 graduated. DH and I have been married almost 15 years. SS was 3 when we got married. I have also been the the other mother to SD24 and SD 21. and SS29. we also have 3 boys 13, 12, and 10. I am tried of family celebrations such as last night being ones that are ones that O look back at and thinks anything but happy feelings about. BM now wants SS18 to "hang-out" with her for 6-weeks so they can do a "fairy garden"!! The agreement was that SS would go with her AFTER he had secured a summer job and get jhis mission paperwork started....which is HIS goal!!! He went right over there after the grad night party..and was to come back home on Monday night...to continue the job hunt that he and I had been working on this week. It was a busy week. He is special needs, and finding a job has been a challenge. BUT we have an eval with a local employer who hires kids like him next Wed. BM is not reliable ...and I am frustatred that she now has change dthe plans and wants to just have him stay for the six weeks now. SS agreed before he lefty..and said all the right things,..BUT ..with his mom..IDK..I let my DH talk to BM...so IDK what his tune is now....hes pretty "Ill say what you want me to say" when it comes to her. Its now summer for our other 3 boys.and I want to have an enjoyable summer with them. BM is not knows for keepingf her promises when it comes to following through with skids.....DH...is a bit of a sofie.and avoid confrontation...even when one is needed