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wishfulstep's picture

Submitted by wishfulstep on Fri, 10/16/2015 - 8:21pm

So, in their infinite wisdom...hubby, BM and step-dad have decided that my 15 year old step-son should have NO consequences for his lying, cheating, or stealing. Instead... Let's figure out the "core" of why he is lying!! Hmmm. He's been doing this crap for at least 4 years (as long as I've known him). Your remedy thus far has been to "love on him"! That shit has not worked either. so... Your new tactic is to "talk to him and treat him like an adult, get respect in return." God help us all.. This is the kind of kid who would turn a gun on us... But nevermind... let's let him be "who is is".

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notsobad's picture

Submitted by notsobad on Sat, 10/17/2015 - 12:00am

What's at the core??

No consequences,That's what's at the core. That's why he does it because he can!

Really, how can people be so stupid?

Ask your husband, "If I had an affair and lied to you about it, would you try to find out what was at the core of it? Would you love on me and treat me better so that I wouldn't have to do it anymore?"

Yaffaleh's picture

Submitted by Yaffaleh on Sat, 10/17/2015 - 8:33am

Funny, that...Sonny-boy (SS, 32, looks like something out of Duck Dynasty without the faith and principles) can be as obnoxious and LAZY and disrespectful as he wants to be, but if it was one of MY boys? He'd be going on about "he needs to be given an object lesson". (God, I hate that phrase...he's even tried it on me until I told him that I was NOT his child to "punish", and if he wanted to punish me he'd better be prepared to live back at the hovel with Sonny-boy) Sonny-boy's latest is that he's dating some tattooed foul-mouthed white trash (AKA: FMWT) and his Dad is actually SURPRISED? Well, this is how you (when you were home, that is) RAISED him.
He's SUPPOSED to buy his dad's house, but now dad is whining about his "stuff" (a few pieces of furniture and a few huge, framed prints of horses that I won't let him bring to my house b/c sonny-boy let the whole house become flea-infested) and how if he marries FMWT that "he's got to not leave stuff that belongs in the faaaaaaaaamily". Fine, so TELL him, right? No, we have to "dance around Patrick" and "say it nice" or he'll tell his dad to go to hell. :?