As I'm writing this, I'm at exchange. BM was going to let DH have SD two weekends in a row since he had been deployed. Well the first weekend she said she had plans Friday so this weekends visit was going to be Sat-Sun. Not a problem. So in the meantime, I make arrangements for my DD to sleep over at a friend's Friday night so we can have alone time, especially since things had been so rocky before DH left.

Well then at the last minute decides she doesn't want SD on Friday and manipulates DH with the blatant "oh she just missed you SO much" bullshit. DH said he'd have to check with me first and BM flipped shit. Point for DH for at least doing that much.

So he calls me and I tell him that no, I'm not really ok with it. There was a plan and I wanted a child free evening so BM should have to stick with it. DH goes off at me about how I'm selfish and he's taking the visitation anyway and how dare I say no. (So you called to give me an option, but really it wasn't an option)

I told him that I'm not wrong in wanting time to ourselves and wanting to tell BM that if she makes a plan she has to stick with it. That ISNT me trying to alienate SD, especially since he was going to see her the NEXT DAY plus next weekend!

He's trying to work it out but TBH I'm a cranky resentful bitch who is ready to get out. He doesn't get how him doing this is basically BM dangling SD out like a carrot just to see how high he'll jump. The blatant manipulation makes me sick.

Tonight I am going out to the gym, and then to the movies by myself. If DH wants to blow off a night alone, I'm taking it myself dammit.