His solution
So my husband and I talked, again.
His great new idea? "Keep SDs occupied so they don't cause me any trouble."
18, 14 ,12. And he needs to keep them occupied so they don't cause me any trouble? Seriously.
Let's analyze what's wrong about this.
He's keeping them occupied, at the age of 18, 14, and 12. If they were 8, 4 and 2 I'd totally understand. But now? They don't need to be kept occupied in order to not caus trouble. Well they shouldn't need to! But they clearly do when in our home. IN OUR HOME specifically, because they are never kept occupied by anyone usually, because they usually don't cause trouble, except to ME. I'd say to US, but that's the next wrong thing.
Cause ME any trouble? Shouldn't it bother him if someone is treating his wife like crap? Shouldn't it bother him that his wife with a new baby is being bothered by his teen girls? I believe it should. Maybe I'm wrong, but I believe it should. But it doesn't! He's keeping them occupied so that they don't bother ME. Like I'm not his wife and my baby is not his baby too.
Another problem? If he's keeping them occupied, he's not spending time with me, the baby, or helping me. He's just keeping them occupied and having a great time, while I'm in pain, stressed, tired, taking care of our baby.. HE'S THE FATHER. He should care.
But he doesn't give a fuck how I feel even if it affects the baby.
I love him, I love him so much. I believed he loves me- he didn't treat me this way before. He cared about my feelings at least enough to consider them,like I do with his. But now, he's occupid with his girls because the closer he gets to me, the further they get from him.
I just want to have joyful days after giving birth to my angel. He wants to spend those days with his teen kids. Well seriously.
Am I right, or is he?
Should I insist on another solution, or let this go?
I would go to my mom's, but she lives in another country, so she's coming to our place. I have one friend that could take me in but with her current state and phase of life, I'd have to help her instead of her helping me. Then again- with this solution, there's no need to go anywhere. SDs and my husband will be going. But it's not what I want. I want my husband to be there!
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Couldn't your guy give these
Couldn't your guy give these girls - I dunno - a bunch of movie tickets or something?
OMG I'm mad for you! I don't
OMG I'm mad for you! I don't have any solutions, but wow - he has to keep them occupied? How about he sets some rules and enforces them?
Argh! Everything you say is
Argh!
Everything you say is right and reasonable. So his solution is to continue to avoid parenting and make you feel unreasonable since they only bother you....yeah right.
These skids know how to manipulate their dad and know how to drive that wedge between you and him. All because they're immature do not have their own lives and expect daddy to entertain them.
I swear some days I feel like SMs can't win. I feel for ya! Get some family time in with your mom And baby and try to ignore all the brats the best you can.
But eventually I would have to be honest with him that he shouldn't neglect you and the baby just because his kids are guilting him. You know these kids must feel threatened by your new baby. They must learn how to share their dad, they cant have him 100% of the time.
So their punishments for
So their punishments for treating you shitty is that "dadddddyyyy" keeps them busy and spending precious time with them as if you and your baby don't exist.Sure that they will be "suffering" by that punishments , especially because it will make them think they "won" and have daddy all for themselves-and best- in their eyes his actions show clear evidence that he doesn't care that much about you two, but instead gives all his attention to them!! That's surely a winner- can it get any better for those girls?Of course Daddy will rather make sure they are fine instead of telling them off for treating that unimportant person, his life partner, bad.
IDIOT MAN