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I had a miscarriage in 2002 and met some amazing women through a pregnancy loss site and to this day are still online friends with them on facebook. It has been so amazing to watch these women overcome obstacles, have children, and watch them morph into moms of many children, and now our children are 8 and 9 years old. I have been through so much since then but nothing like what has happened over the last year since I re-married. I am hoping to meet some other women who can offer advice and support during times when I want to scream and slap my husband's ex in the mouth. And I am NOT a violet person! This is the effect she has on me. Her behavior has such an effect that I don't know what to do or how I will live with her for the next 10 years. (Their daughter, my step, will be 9 this week.)

I have 2 children and my husband has two; he has been married 2x to two different women and now me. He is "fixed" LOL so no kids for us and that is fine by me; I'm done and did not do pregnancy well anyway, very complicated pregnancies. It saddens me that we will not be able to share this special part of being married together but we are both at peace with it; he is 40 and I'm 37 so we were not really interested in getting back into the diaper drill again anyway. His first ex is great; they've been divorced for years and years and I'm actually friends with her. Their son is 15 so he's almost paid off, lol. She owns a hair salon which i've actually visited as a client. She is great. They were only married 18 months. They were very young. He married his second wife in 2001; the same year I married my ex. We both divorced in 2009. We met online (blush) and were hooked at the hip and married very quickly thereafter; July 23 2010. The kids have adjusted very well, I've been very proud of them. It has been hard but productive. I have been a loving, suportive mom to all the kids. Even when I wanted to pull my hair out; I have never once taken any frustrations I might have with the BM's or BD on the kids. I love all of them as if they were mine from the start and I think that is precisely why BM can't stand me.

So here is the craziness. She mimicks our every move, especially mine. She is coniving and lies to get what she wants. And the sick part of it is she uses her facebook page to advertise her feelings and solicit pity while mocking me and dh. I am a yoga instructor so my facebook page was open for public view because I somewhat used it as a tool for my teaching and marketing. I have had to completely privatize it because she would copy every thing I did; it was starting to get scary creepy. Well this past weekend I had my share and sort of ripped into dh about the whole thing. The weekend was supposed to be "our" weekend with SD; we were going to have her birthday party. We got an email from her about a week before the party from her mom saying she was taking SD to the beach. I asked if I had the weekends messed up that I thought it was our weekend. She shot an email back pretty fast explaining it was the only weekend she could plan the trip. I was ticked off but simply responded by saying we were planning on having a bday party but its ok. It was also our anniversary weekend. She knew this and I knew she knew it. We could not get in touch with them at all the day they left; DH was worried and distracted. He finally got a call about 9 that night but we had gone to bed. The next day was Sat., our anni. He called and called and did not get in touch until just after they got off their dolphin expedition. Get this. We had taken the kids to the beach a few weeks ago and taken them to see dolphins on a boat; she is constantly trying to one up everything we do. She takes SD swimming with the dolphins. And you know what, that is fine BUT this behavior is ongoing and disturbing. Even to the point that I got my hair cut; she got hers cut; I signed up to run a half marathon, she signs up for the same race, (she's never run a day in her life?), the list goes on and it is creepy scary. And I've become somewhat crazy myself about checking her facebook page since she is always posting such crazy things about us. Anyway DH was so disturbed by all of her manipulation he could hardly function on our anniversary. She basically took his daughter away from him on a day that she knew he would want to be with her (her birthday party and our anni) and even proved her antics on facebook saying that she had a very special anniversary with her daughter, etc. She lies and manipulates and mimicks and I don't know what to do. She even emailed me 5 times a couple weeks ago, pictures she "thought I'd enjoy" of sd and ss on a trip with her and my hubby while they were married. WHY??????? I am as nice and forgiving as I can possibly be but I don't want to be an emotional doormat for her.