BM left me a message saying she wants to improve our relationship as our New Year's resolutions. WTF? Need advice on response.

This woman has made it plain she believes her religion requires her to get back with SO, has been causing drama (most recently trying to make me reschedule my Christmas Eve party from Christmas Eve to Christmas the day before the party....ummm no)and has overall been a major PITA.
Once upon a time I thought we had a decent working relationship but then she lost her mind. I'm not sure what she's up to but I don't feel it's sincere at all. I have absolutely no desire to have any relationship with BM at all.
I'm not sure how to respond.....I am inclined to ignore her or tell her to f*ck off, but I am concerned it will cause stress for SD19. She got engaged on Christmas and is on cloud nine right now. She's planning a long engagement cause she's young but I don't want to have drama between me and BM bring her down so soon after her big moment. What do you think?

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I think, no contact with BM =

I think, no contact with BM = no drama.

Agree as well. No Contact =

Agree as well.

No Contact = No Drama

I think you guys are right

I think you guys are right and I should ignore her. I just feel like this is some opening gambit on new crazy. I guess I will have to wait and see. Hopefully SD19 can understand why I don't want to be friends with her mom.

I wouldn't worry too much

I wouldn't worry too much about it. Going by what you've written in the past, I think just going on about your business is best. You and BM don't have to be friends.

I wish all the step kids were

I wish all the step kids were grown so I didn't have to deal with her but we still have SS9. I only mentioned SD19 because at the moment I think she is most likely to be hurt if I rebuff BMs advance. She likes me and of course loves BM so she doesn't like it when there's drama. I think ignore is the way to go. I have been doing that for a little while now cause she was getting too crazy. I was thinking crazy thoughts myself which is not like me. I decided I didn't want to go down that road and just quit talking to her. Now this.... I feel it's some kind of bait to make me talk to her again.