We saw BM's older sister at party for one of DH's good friends. The friend is married to BM's stepniece. Anyway this is the first time I have been around BM's sister when BM was not there. She came up to me and started telling me how ridiculous BM's behavior is and that while she has to listen to her vent because she's her sister, as a stepparent herself she disagrees with her most of the time. Then she says, "Really I think BM hasn't been right in the head ever since she started abusing cocaine when she was a teen and young adult. :jawdrop: I know she's not on it now, but that stuff messes up your brain and I don't think you can come back from that."
I wanted to laugh....but I also felt kinda bad for BM. So I mumbled "well I know it's gotta be hard to be away from your kid half the time and she's a good mom." So there I was defending BM to her own sister, lol!

I admit though it was kinda nice to have validation that BM really is over the top and it's not me.