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Day One Was A Success

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Submitted by youngstepmom84 on Tue, 01/11/2011 - 10:29am

My BF did a great job yesterday sticking to his promise that I wouldn't have so much responsibility with SS. It was great, I did all I had to do yesterday and BF picked up SS from school. I had dinner ready for when they got home and then I was able to watch a chick flick while they watched "guy tv" in the living room.

It was awesome!!!

Usually my day goes like this: I take SS to school, go to work, pick him up from school, rush home to make dinner, make sure he does his homework, entertain him until my BF gets home from work, try to read a book or watch a movie and SS is constantly asking "whatcha doin?" over and over. Then I go to sleep and do it all over again.

See the difference? I'm so happy. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I truly feel happy again. I haven't felt this way in such a long time. And to think it was so simple to solve. I love my BF and am so grateful he was understanding and immediately made the change for me.

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Submitted by SteppingUp on Tue, 01/11/2011 - 11:37am

Hooray for you! I can relate -- there have been occassions where I've had to politely tell fiance that he technically needs to do more "work" parenting his kids than I do. Smile I just proclaim, "Your turn for bath and bed duty tonight!" Luckily my DF is very apologetic and appreciative, and fixes this right away, taking control of everything. Most of the time the things that I do for the skids is stuff that I am taking on myself -- if I simply don't do it and do my own thing instead, DF would eventually take care of stuff anyway...it would just be that the skids would homework, eat, and bathe and go to bed about an hour or 2 later than usual! So sometimes it's just me telling myself to let it go and let DF be the "parent".

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Submitted by youngstepmom84 on Tue, 01/11/2011 - 11:56am

yeah, I had to let things go too. At first I was feeling guilty for not helping with SS. But then I kept repeating to myself that I wasn't a bad person for it. I was simply reclaiming my life and not letting it be centered around SS. He's 11 for crying out loud. And his dad is the one that should be taking responsibility for his son. I had to stop being the one that was getting help with SS and become the one simply helping with SS when needed.

This has been the most liberating experience for me in such a long time!!! It's funny how it took me refusing to do things around the house for me to feel like I was doing something around the house. If that makes any sense. haha.

I AM A NEW WOMAN!!!