If I hear the you knew
what you were getting into crap one more time, someone is gonna be hurting. I mean where along the lines of falling in love with a man and his children, did I sign up to have a constant burden such as BM. This woman literally makes me wanna punch her square in the jaw, she bitches and moans about any little thing. For example we were going to the Cincinnati Zoo, and take the kids all 4 of them. She calls MY cell phone popping off at the mouth why do you want to take them there. Umm ya crazy bitch I want to turn them into tiger food, for fun dumbass why else. Its one constant headache after another, and who ever made up the phrase you knew what you were getting into when you married him, yes married HIM not HER..Oh yeah Im new btw been skimming this site for a few days, I will give more details later about my HAPPY family..
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I hate that phrase too!
It's ridiculous for someone to think that you could possibly have predicted what BM would be like before you married him! WELCOME
StepAside
I truly had fun reading your post. lol So true...SO true.
If my fiance had told me up front, "Jojo...there's some things you should know...I'll never put our relationship first and, after we've moved in together, I'm going to cut back drastically on the amount of affection I give you. Oh, and by the way...in about a year from now, my daughter's bio-mother is going to be tragically killed, leaving her and I both with some emotional damage that you are just going have to learn to deal with."
Yeah...I might have walked away then too.
Exactly
StepASide you hit the nail on the head.I do not have a problem with the in laws, just the stepchildren and Bm.I guess I should have done a test drive, lived with him and seen what happened.Then I would have know what I was getting into.
I lived with my dh for 2
I lived with my dh for 2 years before we got married and we had some conflicts but nothing like after we got married. It wasn't until after we got married that bm even gave a sh*t, and the only reason now I think she is that way because she realized I was not going anywhere and then she wanted to have the control. She is a major control freak and you can tell she really favors ss ,which is a nightmare and treats my 2 sd's horribly and they are the really good kids.
So I really can't say that living with someone first really makes a difference, because I think that once the "for better or worse, till death due we part" the real personal problems come to light. And bm and some sk's rear their ugly heads, not all but some.
...the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it. - The Lion King
The dreaded phrase!
JamaicanMeCrazy
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Welcome, Zara. I too, hate that phrase and would almost punch someone (BM,in-laws, or anyone else) in the mouth for saying it. Arrrragghhh! Step Aside hit it right on target with her response.
I SO KNOW HOW YOU FEEL.....
I AM WITH YOU ON THIS - WHERE & WHAT YOU DO W/SKIDS. YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING W/O HER SUPPOSABLE APPROVAL ON WHERE YOUR GOING WITH THE SKIDS.
YET, MOST OF THE TIME SHE CAN NOT WAIT TO GET RID OF THE SKIDS FOR A WHILE.
IT'S LIKE YOU ARE MARRIED TO BM TOO. SHE WAS NOT PART OF THE PACKAGE DEAL.
I knew and I did it anyway!...hahaha
I knew I was marring a man who had a crazy ex wife and I did it anyway! I will stand up and say yes I knew BM was nuts and will to this day she is a nut case. What I didn't know was that DH was going to do nothing about it all. I had no idea he was going to roll over and play dumb. It only took 4 years before he woke up and has seen the light. DH and I have a very long history...met in 8th grade...now how many of us can say we got a second chance at our JUNIOR HIGH SWEETHEART! My hubby is well worth the trouble and he is everything I knew he could be (4 years later...better late than never).
Ohhh....
That bitch BM...my husband's ex said that to me one time and it was all I could do not to knock her dirty, lesbian head off!!
My husband says it too...well, it's not like you didn't know I had kids. Well DUH! I just didn't expect a satanic e-wife and spawn of Satan kids. I was hoping for some normalcy, not complete chaos!! So NO, actually I DID NOT sign up for this particular situation called HELL!!
Dumb bitches...all of those crazy BM's...
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People's situations change!
People's situations change! There's no way to prepare for life changes or decisions BM and DH make together that are out of your control.
I hate that too. Many men
I hate that too. Many men keep BM out of ALL conversation and hide that fact they have problems with her. How are we supposed to know who she is or what is a about to put us through?
Zara, LMAO
"Umm ya crazy bitch I want to turn them into tiger food, for fun dumbass why else."
I'm dyin' over here!!!! Hilarious!
"One should examine oneself for a very long time before thinking of condemning others." ~Moliere
Thank you all
for your warm welcome. I hope to find some comfort here, seems the rest of the world just dont get it. Wonder how many of us would have dated let alone marry or move in with these men, had we really KNOWN WHAT WE WERE GETTING INTO.I would say hell to the NO.
haha....
That was cute StepAside...Amen sister!