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MSD's has no bed, BM's Go Fund Me, OSD calling DH a deadbeat basically and some other updates

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:14am

BM Go Fund Me is still unsucessful. $20. 1 donor. (OSD). Her goal is $11,000.

I was being nosey on OSD's page one day. OSD promoted BM's Go Fund Me on her FB page. Then she had the nerve to state that any amount would help, no one would help her mother out, never even her dad.
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Normally I dont engage. However that pissed me off. How about the $900+ in CS that your mother gets from DH for 1 kid!

So I posted a comment from DH's FB "As her father I would love to help but with the $900+ I pay your mom in CS, there is no extra".

I just wanted to put the facts out there. Dont slam DH as a deadbeat dad who won't help his own kid with teeth (cosmetic) issues.

I havent gone back and looked at OSD's FB page to see if she commented back or anything. I was too annoyed and then I didnt want any drama to ruin my weekend.

I told DH what I did and he didnt care. Not that he should care, I was sticking up for him when his own daughter was trashing him.
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SS was over this weekend. He informed us that MSD is still in her apartment. For her to have SOLD her bed (then ask us for our spare bed) while still in her apartment, she must be hard up for some money.

She isnt working and sounds like she hasnt been working for awhile. She got fired from her retail job around Xmas then was working as a server at a country club. Not sure what happened there.

Still with the bad news BF.

Sadly she is dropping her kid off with BM every night while she goes and runs the street with her BF. Her baby goes to his dad's on the weekends, couldnt she just wait until then? Nope.

Her BF has a baby too. I'm sure not long before they have one together.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:21am

I debated about engaging. I really thought about it for a long time. But someone advised me to post something nice and diplomatic, so that pushed me to do it. Because I was going to post something bitchy and snarky as myself. LOL. Like Hey Bitch it's Zero and your dad, my husband, does pay your lazy ass mom. Why cant she use some of that money (which is more then enough) for your sister's jacked up teeth?

Well it made sense that she got rid of the bed if she didnt live in her apartment anymore. But if she is still there (Whcih is what I figured, she moved in last May, 12 month lease) why would she get rid of her bed?

DH mentioned something about MSD saying she is moving at the end of the month, like she wanted DH's help moving. Ummm HA! I guess she is moving into BM's house. Like DH is going to go into BM's house to move MSD's stuff. Yeah... not happening.

I'm surprised she hasnt been evicted... No job... Luxury apartment $750 per month in rent, how is she even paying rent?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:32am

YSD needed braces. (Bad teeth but not horrible) but by doing that it created spaces where teeth never grew in. So BM moved forward with the braces (without consulting DH) thinking that her insurance would later pay for the implants. Well she got denied. So now YSD has straight teeth but has 2 front side top teeth missing.

BM set up the account asking for $11,000 to pay for the implants so her beautiful girl can feel confident again and smile again. :O

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:43am

I haven't looked. I need to distance myself from it because any rude comments will just piss me off. And I dont like being pissed off. I prefer Happy Zero much better. LOL.

I stated a fact, the truth and that is fine with me.

Not sure I really care what she will possibly say back. OSD is clearly misinformed about how much money her mom really has coming in. I bet OSD wished she didnt give BM $20 for that fund. Ha ha

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:46am

Exactly. I do feel its good enough for me. And I feel good that I feel good about it Smile

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Submitted by mommy0104 on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:35am

This is the same struggle I deal with! BM wants everyone to believe that DH is a deadbeat although he pays a good amount in CS...even the skids believe it even though we have showed them DH's check stubs that clearly show where they take out child support. They're dumb enough to believe that if they don't see an exchange of cash in hand, that DH doesn't help...it's one of the things that infuriates me the most..does my DH need a parade and constant praise for being a good parent? No, but he also doesn't need labeled a deadbeat either, because he's far from it.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 10:46am

Paying CS alone doesnt make you a good parent. DH defintely has his faults as a dad. Had OSD said something about DH on FB and his parenting skills, I would have thought, That is between them, not my business. I wouldnt of liked it and would be annoyed but I would keep my mouth shut.

But DH pays his CS. Not because it's court ordered but because he knows how important it is. So that is why I was so pissed off.

The BMs who make the dad's look like deadbeats about CS only do that because that is the only thing they can say. Even if it's not true.

Now a real deadbeat about CS- my Ex, BS's dad. Owes $12,000. Wont even file his taxes to avoid paying CS. Now that is a deadbeat.

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Submitted by mommy0104 on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 11:35am

That's something we have in common! I know my DH isn't perfect and is partially to blame for why my skids are the way they are. But BM is always saying things to the skids, making DH look like a crappy parent. Always telling them he doesn't care about them...and I'm sure she'll do the same thing when YSD ages out and CS is no longer paid..then she'll go around telling the skids he stopped paying because he doesn't love them. My DH would also pay CS even if a judge didn't order it. He's taking care of the skids the way he would even if he and BM were still married..but to my skids, everything is about money. My oldest son's bio-dad also refuses to work or pay taxes to get out of CS..he's only ordered to pay $10 a month..and my son doesn't even get that...maybe $6 a year..so I"m sure my ex is several thousand dollars behind in CS..but even without CS, he doesn't do anything "fatherly"..no calls, no b-day cards, no visiting..doesn't know my son's b-day or middle name..says he refuses to have anything to do with my son unless I go to court and have my son's last name changed (i gave him my maiden last name instead of x's..we were never married and ex's last name carries a lot of "bad news" in this town..so at the time, I thought I was doing what was right for my son...but instead of hating me for it, x takes it out on my son..) he's an idiot..

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Submitted by Unfreakingreal on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 11:15am

BM is always posting these fucking memes that say things like "Don't need a man to take care of my kids, I got this!"
Hmmmm, yeah bitch, you got my mans damn child support checks, that's what you GOT.
Stupid ass bum bitch acting like she takes care of her kids. Fuck outta here with that bullshit.

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Submitted by misSTEP on Mon, 04/20/2015 - 1:50pm

I joke that BM made ALL her money off kids. First CS for the skids. Then foster parenting (she would pay SD a small amount every month for SD to be "in charge" of the foster kids). Then daycare when SD and she both had babies (they fudged the government assistance a bit there).

I was surprised that she actually adopted 4 of her foster kids recently. I was unaware that she STILL gets a check for them every month...NOW it makes more sense.