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My New Motto

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 10:17am

If you treat the Queen of the Castle like shit, you will be banished from the Kingdom.

Bottom line, you treat me like crap in my own home (steal, snarky remarks and comments, stink eye, making up lies about me, etc) you will not be allowed back over.

Plain and simple...especially for the grown skids.

I own this home. I pay the bills. This is my safe haven. Not sure why you (skid) think you can come into my Kingdom and try to test the boundaries and push buttons.

Nope- EXILED!

baaawwwaahhhaaaaa (evil laugh) I'm okay with being the Evil SM... I tried and tried and tried and tried and being nice didnt work.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 10:21am

I think us Queens (SMs) should embrace this motto- take a stand against the bs going on in our own homes! LOL

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Submitted by Teas83 on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 10:43am

Nice!

My SD is only 6 but I'm slowly becoming the wicked step mother due to a number of factors.

She doesn't steal, but she's started to talk back to me. She also exaggerates situations to her mom to make me sound "mean". For instance, I gave her a time out because she lied to me. Then she went home and told her mom I made her stand in a corner just to be mean. And her mom always believes her because she's eager to make me out to be the bad guy.

I want to tell her that if things are so bad at our house, she doesn't need to visit anymore.

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Submitted by princessmofo on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 10:50am

I can so relate. I constantly feel like I am being reduced to the condition of visitor in my own home. It's better since we have nothing to do with dh's mother. MIL was the worst. I couldn't even look sideways at ss without her making a stink about it.

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Submitted by Mercury on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 11:03am

Agreed.

Do you have the support of your husband on this?

My DH isn't happy about the way things turned out but he still has my back: his daughter won't come back into this house until 1) she apologises for being a douche and 2) her attitude about our marriage changes radically.

This is huge. Yes, I realize how lucky I am. He still sees her outside of our home and I guess I can live with that but I still think that's giving her the message that she can continue to disrespect me, she can still have him without having to comply to the above terms.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 11:10am

Mercury-

Somewhat. We had a long discussion about it. I told him he keeps pushing YSD and MSD on me. He needs to just STOP and give everyone a breather. Give them time to mature. Give me time to move past the bad feelings I have right now. Let some time pass. Keep being their dad, but please do it outside the home, for the sake of everyone.

The skids seem miserable when they are at the house and I am around. They spend more time being bitchy to me then they do visiting with their dad. So its not like they are having a good time either.

DH says he understands, but we have went down this road before, so we shall see.

*** we run into the problem of I actually like SS (because he treats me with respect) and dont mind if he comes over. I think DH feels like SS cant come over, if MSD and YSD arent allowed over. So that kind of sucks and something we will have to work through.

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Submitted by Mercury on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 11:24am

Aw, that's too bad about your SS. We are in the same position, dh's son is ok when he's here. He's not banished from the kingdom, lol. Your DH is in a tough position.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 12:11pm

I hate putting him in a tough situation but its his own fault. He didnt raise his daughters right... He only has himself to blame.

ETA- he didnt raise his daughters right nor handle the situation right when the skids were acting out. Instead he chose to ignore and now we are where we are because of that.

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 12:46pm

Sorry if I was confusing- DH hasnt said that SS cant come over. But it puts him in a weird spot if I am like "hey let's invite SS and GF over" and clearly I mean ONLY SS and GF. For whatever reason if SS comes over, its like automatic that YSD has to tag along. Even though SS is 20 (stb 21).

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 11:14am

I always say about SS "He knows his role." I appreciate this about him. He understands I am the adult in the house and he needs to be respectful. SS sees that I won't back down from my stance, where the girl skids are so used to getting their way, they think that daaaddddyyy is going to give them whatever they want, even if SM is against it. NOPE. When it comes to my house... I am taking a stand.... If the "King" doesnt like it- OFF WITH HIS HEAD! }:) LOL