Why does MSD need our address?
I seen on DH's texts that MSD asked for our address.
Why does she need our address? She had her own address. She has never lived at our house. She knows how to drive herself to our house, so its not like she doesnt know where we live and she needs to GPS it or something.
Now if I ask DH why MSD asked for our address he will get offensive and assume that simply because she is his daughter that she has the right to our address. Which yes I know its public record.
I am just so on edge about WHY she would need OUR address.
This is what high conflict skid situations do to you. Makes you wonder and guess the meaning behind a simple request. The worse goes through your head. Is she using our address for something criminal or for a scam? Something for BM? Maybe she is just updating her address book and plans to send us a Christmas card this year? Does DH know something? And knowing him he wont come right out and tell me.....
And just an FYI- yes DH knows I am nosey and checks his texts. Yes I have to do this if I want to know what the heck is going on. Yes I know when being nosey you dont get the full picture and you only set yourself up for questions like this.
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I totally get this. We had
I totally get this. We had many unfortunate incidents in the past. Which is why DH and I use the PO Box for all things skid and xw related. Not that they couldn't' just google and find the street address, but OUR rules are: use the PO Box.
The only present she would be
The only present she would be sending is a stack of bills asking Daddddyyy to pay them or antrhax for me. :O
So should I just outright ask
So should I just outright ask DH why she needed our address?
I would ask too. But I would
I would ask too. But I would have asked in a very different way. I bet you just put him on the defense about his little precious.
I would have text..."Hey Babe...why did MSD need out address?" And that is it.
True Willow... and I havent
True Willow... and I havent heard back from him.
It will be a nightmare if she
It will be a nightmare if she starts using your address.
In 2012, MSD stayed here for five weeks after DH bailed her out of jail. Long story there...she was charged with identity theft / insurance fraud against her own BM. Found out just how deep the crap pile she got herself into more and more each day she was here.
Even though she was here temp only DH took her to DMV to renew her expired DL...with our address on it. She continued to use our address for her car ins, county mental health counseling, etc. She didn't even live in the same county after I finally got her out of here. We had to pay the deposit and two months rent on an apt for her sorry butt to get her out. The day she was to go sign the lease and move out she tried to not follow through. I texted her and said the offer expired that day and her crap was outside...come get it or not.. The bitch was not staying here any longer. Anyway...I am still bitter about the whole mess and have nothing to do with any of the three SD's because of the hell the MSD caused and continued even after she was gone.
But the mail continued to come here for her....collection notices, etc. she wanted DH to bring it to her. It was two months before she would put in a postal address change. I had to RTS her mail. She was scamming everyone.
To this day from time to time something comes here with her name on it. I RTS the crap. It is such a PTSD trigger for me to see her name in the mailbox.
So in my opinion your MSD does not need your address. I would put a fraud alert in with the credit bureaus if I were you and if you start getting mail with her name on it or packages then do what you have to do to stop it. RTS everything and provide her address on the back.
My MSD even threatened in a text to DH that she would kill me if I told anyone where she moved to. Since the text was not to me directly There was nothing I could do about it....but I made sure to tell anyone who asked or sent mail to her at MY house where they could find her ass.
Legally she got a hand slap for all her scams and crimes. I wish they had locked her up.
Good luck with your situation. I would not let DH rest until you got an answer from him. My marriage will never again be what it was before the MSD blew threw here and DH did not stand up to her bullcrap. It is getting better with time but I know my heart is changed forever.
Yeah she would have no reason
Yeah she would have no reason to use our address as she has her own apartment. Unless she no longer has her apartment. Which DH leads me to believe that she still has her own place.
Who freaking knows.. I am always the last to know, but the one most affected by the skid situation. So many what ifs....
Any response yet? I am
Any response yet? I am curious now!
No! I am sure he is thinking
No! I am sure he is thinking she had good intentions for wanting our address.
And it totally could be.
I just doubt its to send some kind of thank you note. Or to invite us to a party or something, ya know? She's 18 and broke.
As soon as I get him to answer- either via text or verbally, I will def. update this post.
If she can drive to your
If she can drive to your house, why can't she 1) look at the street sign, and 2) look at the house number?
Not saying it's OK for her to have your address, but if she's going to be sneaky about something, don't call herself out by asking the address... that's like something I learned when I was 12. haha
How weird.
Yeah I guess overall its just
Yeah I guess overall its just weird that she asked for our address.
If any other person asked I would assume they are sending an invite for something. LOL With her I assume the worse.
I asked DH and he said MSD
I asked DH and he said MSD needed it for an emergency contact. Not sure if he knew that directly from her or was just saying it to get me off his back.
Either way- if its true that is fine and makes sense. I am sure its true.
It's just the fact that when it comes to a skid- the worse goes through your head right away. }:) Ah step life!