I'm not friends with YSD14 (stb15) on FB but DH is. Sometimes I will read DH's newsfeed through his FB on his phone if I am bored. Mainly because he has a few crazy cousins and their FB drama can be entertaining. The skids rarely post on FB so I dont have to really worry about seeing a post from them that I dont like.

So we are laying in bed and a post from YSD says something to the effect of "My father is never there for me like he should be My brother is more like a father to me and has been there more for me he's showing me what a father is like"

I show it to DH and he responds in his usual matter when *I* think the skids are being terribly rude or nasty towards him. Ya know he acts like it doesn't bother him and that it is no big deal. That this is normal and acceptable.

Here are my issues:

First, you are talking about your own father on FB which is just wrong. You are saying something about him that is rude and mostly (I will get to that) untrue where people will read that and judge your father. Do you not care that your own father can read this? Or that his family (your aunts/uncles/cousins) can read this?

I would really like to know how your 20 year old brother is more of a dad then your own father. The brother who has only recently lived with you when he is not at his GF's house. Who can't hold down a job, lays around the house and smokes pot all day. Not really a father figure??? Very confused by that.

I will "agree" that DH isn't always there for her. This is nothing new though. She is a child of divorce. I am sure his other 3 kids and 2 grandbabies, friends, family, me his wife and his own SS could claim that he isn't always there for us like he should be.

Just last weekend DH took YSD to the movies and to dinner. He does this at least once a month. At least. (there are some issues with her being in our home) He doesn't really do this with any of the other kids.

Anytime she calls and WANTS or NEEDS something, he makes sure she gets it. And of course she ONLY calls when she needs him to buy her something or take her out to eat.

When things were good with the skids and they were doing EOW, YSD hardly ever came over. She wanted to come over when we were doing fun things. If we weren't, well hell she wasn't coming over.

I guess in her 14 yr old mind she may think because DH isn't up her butt, that he isn't there for her. And maybe since she doesn't come over to the house anymore for overnights (been over a year). However, I am open to her coming (not MSD because she is a thief) but instead of DH addressing that with MSD and letting YSD come over, he just ignores it all together and visits them outside the home.

I am sure BM said something or got her all upset about something, talking about DH. Because she just last weekend she seemed to be enjoying her time with DH.

To me, this is just ANOTHER reason to think she is a little snot and be annoyed with her and to think lowly of her. I know in my mind it's an attention thing but at the same time she is old enough to know what she is doing.

Thanks for letting me vent. I am just going to let this go and not be bothered by it. Just know it's another thing that YSD is doing to show her true colors.