Just Poppin In to StepLand.....
Hey All...Remember me? Been a while. Got a call from a stepmom friend today, and thought I would just pop in to say hi to all of ya.
For those newbies who aren't familiar with me, I am a Step Mom Survior. YIP Believe That, we do survive. It took me all of 16 1/2 years but through the strength of GOD, hubby, and this site, I survived. I survived the constant battle of superior manipulations, constant interefernce of the BM and the DH's families misperceptions. I even survived the knock-down drag-out violent tendencies of the SD.
SD is married now. Yip, married at 19 to a really nice armed forces guy same age and yip moved to another country. Sounds good huh? Perservere...my only advise stand up for what is right. Try not to worry so much about the DH's feelings, if your marriage is strong enough it will see you thru tough times. I'm not saying don't try, but just have a little faith. When your wrong, admit it and move forward, when your right - don't back down.
So, now is good. Marriage is stronger than ever. our bio kids 13 & 16 are healthy and living what I call a normal life without the drama of everyday BS !
This site has been a life saver to me, and my family. Many times I wanted to just walk out, but that was never the advise I received. I have enjoyed meeting many stepmoms here and have made some dear dear friends (in person too). I cherish my friendships and hope that yall don't forget me. I don't have a lot to gripe about these days, hence my absence. I don't want to come of like I'm bragging either. OMG.....just got back home from vacation with DH's family and guess what? great time, no akward moments, because SD wasn't there to stir it up. How nice that was. I'm feeling relaxed (little burnt), and ready to get back to my usual routines.
See Yall Soon.....I'll try to catch up with yall. Looks like their are a lot new folks here..glad to see it. Dawn & Admin works very hard to keep this site running, and I for one am most grateful......
Stepwitch (the one & only)
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I think I called on you for two reasons
The first being that other than Sia, who's number is not yet in my phone (don't worry Sia- I'll be remedying that when I get back home) I couldn't think of another SM, who's MIL would likely have put her through the exact horrible weekend I have had.
And secondly, you made it for 11 years longer than I have had to, and still survived it, managed to get through to the other side of it. And hearing that you had a nice vacation with your ILs since SD wasn't there to campaign for them to stand up for her and save her from her SW? That gives me some hope. (Though if SD marries and moves a world away from MIL, I'm sure that will be my fault for driving her away from us too.)
Thanks again for the pep talk!
We really must arrange another camping trip! SOON!
"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I
Yaaaay!!!
Hello my Dear Friend!
Can't say long time no talk because we were emailing and FB earlier. I am so glad to see that you are happy and in love again. It is good to know that you guys weathered the storm. I know that it was pretty darn rough and don't worry about bragging. Some of us need to hear stories with happy endings. So many of us fall by the wayside, that it is hard to think that there is such a thing of happily ever most days in these situations. I for one, have that most of the time. But I do know some of my fellow StepSisters and Brothers do not. So, glad to hear that things re well with you but don't go away because they are. You went through quite a few storms and have more than earned your happiness. Now can you give classes on how to marry a kid off young and have them move to another country? LOL. J/K. I am actually having a wonderful time with my skids these days and the BM is actually behaving so no problem here either. It is so good to see you here and I am so glad that you could be an ear for Sita today.
Anyone can take the easy way out and blame others. BUT it takes a a person of character to take a look at one's self and actions and own responsibility for their part. ~ ME ~ }:-P
Hey there!
It has been forever since I've seen you here! I'm so glad to hear that everything is going so well! W00 HOO, we can survive!
Good to see things are going well..
I would rather be hated for who I am, then loved for who I am not.
I have just recently popped back online myself and am glad to see some of the older posters I started out with, not that I dont enjoy reading the new posters, such great personalities show through!
Hey there my old friend...
I'm so glad that it's worked out for you.
I miss you but am glad that there is little need to gripe. I am so very proud of you. I hope my story can end up like yours, my youngest SD is only 6 though.
I still think you are the best and I just love you to pieces.
(((((HUGS)))))
"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley
SW!!!! Oh, lady, I miss you!
SW!!!! Oh, lady, I miss you! Need an update on the mom. I keep thinking about those poppers.....
To every thing there is a season.
I forgot!
About those POPPERS!
Another reason I want to take a trip to TN.
I think I'd like a 5 day weekend to a SM retreat this year! Willing to pay for my stay too
"To be, or not to be: that is the question:
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?" ~Hamlet Act III scene I
Cabin alway open!!
thanks girlies! I have missed yall here, even tho some of us keep up in other places.
My advice is perservere & conquer! Always be the parent regardless of whether your skid understands or respects.... The only way I survived was this site, and these people!
Love you all....I'll see yall soon !
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
Sheesh, leave the country
Sheesh, leave the country for 3 weeks and you miss a lot! I'm still playing catch up!
Glad to see you popped back in for a visit, and even happier to hear that life is good.
Hubby says if another retreat gets planned that he'll send me, woo hoo!
Does SIL have a friend??
Maybe we can introduce my SD to a military man and they can move away, far far away!!!
Glynne