Hi, I am new to this site, but I feel I need to vent a little.
I have three boys ages, 27,21 & 12 in which they are wonderful boys.

But now, I have a step-daughter that my husband recieved sold custody of about a year and half ago. She is 6 years old, and when she came into our life she new nothing about discipline. She would talk back to us, would not listen. If she did not get her way she would throw herself on the floor and kick and scream. We later found out that her mother told her not to listen to us. But it was so difficult, it got to the point that I would cry because I did not know what to do. Since than she has changed quite a bit, because her mother stopped contact with her.

But now three months ago, her mother served us with papers for joint custody. We went to court, and now she has professional moniter visits (once a week for two hours only). But now she is beginning to act out again, not wanting to listen. I have been having to give her time out every other day or at time everyday.

My husband is hardly home, he works 6 days a week. But when he is at home he does not give her discipline so it makes it hard for me and also makes me look like the bad guy. I have spoke to him about it that I have concerns regarding this issue. He is working on it to a extend.

She wants so much attention, and I feel I have to give her that, because I feel I cannot trust her, having to constantly watch her, plus I have noticed she has been testing me, my patients. It has been so hard, taking care of her the house, trying not to take away attention from my 12 year old son, the bills and part time work. Plus my only contact with my husband is mainly by phone, because he is working quite bit and when he is not working I am working.