Hello, i need to vent. I am battling the mil. She helped raise my dh 4 year old for two years and she has common law custody of his 15 year old. We have had some issues this past summer over my ss4 and some personal issues with me. I had a miscariage this past aug and my mil told one of her friends whom i dont know and this friend walked up to me at ss4 school and started talking to me about it, not even two weeks after it happened. I went off on my mil, i was very angry. She does not think she did anything wrong, she may not have intented for her friend to say anything to me but she did. If the shoe were on the other foot i would feel responsible for my friends actions. That is the way i was raised and i have explained all of this to my mil, after two months of not speaking she wrote me a letter to once again tell me she feels she did nothing wrong. I wrote her back. We did not go to the mil house for thanksgiving this year, she was very upset. She then told sd25 & ss15 that their father was turning his back on his kids. She told them he had a new family now. Dh talked to sd25 and told her we just wanted to relax, watch football, put up the x-mas tree, ect. SD25 said she understood and that maybe she would come later for pie. she never showed up or called. sd25 then turned around and told mil everything that dh had said to her, he specifically asked her not to discuss issues with mil, to call him if she had them. Now back to the letter i wrote, just yesterday sd25 sent dh txt msgs with quotes from my letter, i am sickend. I said nothing about sd25 in my letter but she was defending mil in the txts mgs. How is this her business. I was very upset three months ago over my mils gossiping, and now she has sd25 involved. I believe she is trying to turn dh other children against me because i wont put up with her trying to control our lives and her gossiping. She is using dh kids to hurt him because at this point this is the only way for her to hurt him. Ive told dh that i am done, i am refusing to spend x-mas eve over there. How can i possible go over there knowing that all mil and sd25 do is talk about me. I would not be comfortable at all. I am choosing to stay home with my two children. I still have to see mil all the time bacause she helps us with ss4, we only have one car and she takes him to school and brings him home. Until yesterday i was being nice to her everyday saying thank you when she dropped of ss4. She has been cold as ice to me. She mops around and tells ss4 she has a broken heart so ss4 is acting just like her. he mops around saying hes has a broken heart. How much is mil telling ss15 & ss4. if she has brought sd25 into this whats to stop her from telling ss4 stuff he should not even know. we know for a fact she has said plenty in front of ss15. What is wrong with this woman. nothing that is said in this family is sacred. mil has told sd25 personal stuff about out finances in the past. Once again how is this her business. dh has stopped telling mil our personal business and now she is complaining that he never talks to her or turns to her anymore. OMG, my head is spinning!

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