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Last-Wife's picture

Submitted by Last-Wife on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 9:27pm

What phrase do you repeat to your self to remind you the skids really aren't your problem?

In the New Year, I am looking to disengage. It's not going to be about them anymore. As I am furious with DH for not yet talking to SD17 about running away and lying last night, I am needing something to distract me, and there isn't a dang thing on TV and I'm getting so good at our new Wii bowling game that the boys kicked me out the of the living room. LOL

Suggestions for my new mantra?

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Angel's picture

Submitted by Angel on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 9:51pm

Not my kid, not my problem.

Nothing that can't feed itself can live here. (people, pets, plants, etc...)because I am not cooking.

Trying-to-blend's picture

Submitted by Trying-to-blend on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 9:55pm

When you walk to the edge of all the light you have and take that first step into the darkness of the unknown, you must believe that one of two things will happen: There will be something solid for you to stand upon, or, you will be taught how to fly.
-- by Patrick Overton

“Only one thing has to change for us to know happiness in our lives: where we focus our attention.”

Amazed's picture

Submitted by Amazed on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 11:06pm

I usually fail when trying to believe I hold zero responsibility for my sd11...there is no mantra for me in that regard. I stick with the mantra I've been using since the beginning..."I will handle this with dignity and grace...dignity and grace." "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland

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Submitted by Stick on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 11:17pm

I'm with you BBB. I could never disengage in my own home. I never would have made it to marrying DH if I had to disengage from SD.

Oh!! And you forgot the DAMNIT part at the end!! As you say ....

"I will handle this with dignity and grace .... DAMN IT!!" Smile

*** A rainbow just threw up on me... and now I'm sh*tting glitter! ***

Amazed's picture

Submitted by Amazed on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 11:31pm

I'm personally disengaged as in I now realize it isn't my job to change sd or end certain behaviors she exhibits. My only job is to pick up where I see bm has slacked off...I can live with that level of involvement. And I can do it w dignity and grace...damnit! Lol. "Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else." ~Judy Garland

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Submitted by Jsmom on Sun, 01/03/2010 - 5:12pm

I also use "Not my kid - Not my problem" It helps so much. I should say it more than I do - maybe my frustration would be less.