after all my ranting....bm is coing over for end of year tball party :(
so im a big fat hypocrite. i opened my mouth at tball because the team mom and i hit it off and she mentioned the end of year party, before i could even stop myself i had offered our home since we have a pool. then i realized it was bm's weekend....i didnt want to say oh wait i need to check that bm wont be a crazy beotch and not allow ss to come so i had dh ask bm about it. he said, "we are having the team party over here and its your weekend, will you drop him off and ill bring him to you after the party?" bm's first words were, "what im not invited?" to which dh replied, "do you think smnikki wants you in her house after all you have done?" bm then said that she was very sorry for the drama and upset she caused, that she is working on it and is really trying to be better, her life was in a bad spot and she took it out on every one" dh told her we would see as it gets closer, but its not a for sure thing, it all depends on how she treats us.
lol, i think its hilarious that bm and i will both be in the same place in a swim suit....and i know since its my turf she will behave, and she will hate to be at our beautiful new home...but im a big hypocrite about not allowing bm over....all though if i could prevent it i would....but i know bm and mil arent able to keep it together for long, and im sure bm will pull some crap and she wont be invited.
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Some things are just
Some things are just unavoidable... I don't think you are a hypocrite for this. I think you are a good stepmom for allowing SS to have a nice part in his end of year party. Just keep your head on straight SN, and you will be juuussttt fiiinneee! I have faith in your maturity level with this. It will all work out!
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DB is right. Some things you
DB is right. Some things you can't control.
I think it is funny that she would want to be invited....if we hosted the softball party for SD I KNOW and would expect BM to drop SD off. She wouldn't stay.
yeah, me with my big ol fake
yeah, me with my big ol fake boobs in a swim suit does not seem like some thing she would want to be around...but she actually thinks shes cute with her tattoos and sagging stomach and cheese legs. its beyond me. im sure she will even wear her hat that says "hottie"
ok that was immature, but i couldnt help my self. the thing is i think she genuinely wants to get along, in her rational state, but the problem is that any sense on rationality goes out the window any time she is feeling insecure or whatever. so i think thats why she asked to be invited...she is partly delusional, and i think that as soon as she is mentally ok with things she thinks all of her horrible actions are forgotten.
her and mil are scared of me. she will not dare cause a scene. me and the team mom are pretty close now, and she knows what the deal is. and one of the step dads on the team i went to high school with (random considering its 45 min away from where we live now) and we were friends. the thing is, i have a huge new house filled with beautiful pictures of dh, ss and i, we have a beautiful back yard and custom swimming pool, bm will be more sad than anything else about how great of a life dh and i have. im more worried about her leaving in tears....but im actually hoping that this will give bm and i a chance to maybe make some peace. i will give her a job as some one else suggested, and then after everyone leaves im hoping we can chat. if shes for real about wanting things to be better, then hopefully its possible
HUH! After I took your
HUH! After I took your advice and decide NOT to invite BM to the party? This is how you repay me... Kidding. LOL.
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