6 weeks of life without the drama princess...lol - NEED ADVICE PLEASE
Well the first 3 weeks were great as she was so mad at daddy that she wouldn't talk to him or come around. A brand new car later (that daddy put down over 1/2 of the cost for a down payment)and a lot of guilt poured all over daddy and she is back telling us what she is going to do. She still lives with BM, still sleeps on the pull-out couch but spends her days off at our home doing laundry, washing her car, watching tv and leaving messes for me to clean up. Yesterday I found out from DIL that the drama princess was watching her niece and planning to spend the night at our house tonight. I asked BF if he knew about this and he said no. He called her to ask her and she said well yes I am coming there, mom needs to sleep in the morning and doesn't want the niece (her grand daughter) there. So we can be inconveineced so Bm can sleep? I am angry that he is allowing BD to act as though she still lives with us and can use our home however she wants. I expected a transition period with her, but this is ridiculous. And I am at a loss as to how to talk to him about this. Am I wrong in thinking that she should be coming to visit when he is home, not to hang out and use our things? She doesn't come when he is home, only when we are gone. How do I get him to see this is wrong?
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OMG! can you approach him
OMG! can you approach him with a question like: "why is it that sd only comes to OUR house when we aren't here?" -- "i know it may not seem that big of a deal to you, but you don't have to cleanup the messes she makes and leaves behind." -- "and if she is going to use all the laundry detergent (or eat all the food in the fridge) -- at the very least a note would be nice, so when i go to wash OUR clothes i'm not stuck with no detergent." --- "honey, i really just don't feel comfortable with her using OUR house as her crib"
has she done anything for you to be concerned about stealing or anything??
my skids are still young and live so far away that they don't have keys to my house and i'm gonna keep it that way....
keep us posted....good luck!
IDK. I don't really see a
IDK. I don't really see a problem with her coming over. The problem I have is that she is ONLY coming when she knows you both aren't there. Maybe explain to DH that it makes you feel like she is purposely avoiding you both and you feel used because of it?
Ah yes...the princess! I
Ah yes...the princess! I have one of those too! She NEVER calls DDDDAAADDDYYYY unless she wants something. I am done with her and her selfish ways!
****I can do bad all by myself****
She has put bleach in my
She has put bleach in my clothes, destroyed many things of mine and totally disrespected all of my wishes when she lived with us. She even went to far as to cuss me out and tell me it wasn't my kitchen one day when I wanted to cook dinner and she was making brownies. So yes i have plenty of reasons for not wanting her there when we are not. Wehave 5 kids between us all on their own and she is the only one who does this.
well, then outline your
well, then outline your reasons --- and the next time she messes any of your stuff up ---- deliver all your reasons to dh --including she is the ONLY ONE who does this and it needs to STOP. she can visit when you & dh are home.. then change locks
and why the hell does she have to bring niece to your house to babysit?? why not at niece's home?
i think she's just taking advantage of you to piss you off. but that's my bitter opinion.