OK this is my first time doing this, so plz bare with me! I have three step children, all girls, ages 22, 20 and 15. My hubby and I have been married for almost 9 years. We also have two children together, 8 and 4. The situation with the step kids keeps gettign worse and worse. The last blow up I had to kick out the 20 year old out (for the fourth time), but yet I ALWAYS get pegged as the bad guy, only because i expect her to watch her mouth and pick up after herself, and take care of her 13 month daughter. Anyway, I get called every name in the book, by all three, and now it has extended to my husbands side. This daughter is trying to play the sympathy card because her husband is in Iraq, which I understand and feel for her, but like I have said to others, it is not the first time it has happened. Its getting so bad that I feel it is my falut that my husband has to divide his time between them and us, although I have NEVER said he could not see them. Its at the point where I think I should leave him so he does not have to be so torn. I also am very adament about them not seeing my children until they can learn to at least respect me in front of them, which rarely happens. They keep wearing my husband down, but yet they never own up to their rotten behavior to him. Does anyone else have this same prob??? If so, what has workded for you in the past???? I am so desperated for some adivice, I am the only oine in my family with steps children, so no one really understands!!!! Can I keep them from seeing my children??? Thanks :sick: